I think it's interesting that you think you get to define what feminism is.
Yes, I do get to define what feminism is for me. And my definition is based largely of the messages I hear from self-proclaimed feminists. If you want my support, you need to give me a message that resonates with me. This isn't it.
I am the target audience. I am a progressive male. I am the father of a daughter. I am against rape, pro-choice and I want to see pay equity. I certainly believe that women should be treated equally to men.
Yet feminism turns me off. When I hear the word "feminism" I wince because the word has been associated with anger, illogical arguments and anti-male sentiments.
I support movements and ideas that make sense to me. I am not obligated to jump on the feminism bandwagon, or any other bandwagon.
Videos like this illustrate perfectly why feminism (as it is commonly practiced in 21st century America) turns me off. It is angry, anti-male and illogical.
(Incidently the 20% of women raped figure is propaganda and is scientifically inaccurate. Do I need to add the disclaimer that I am against rape? It is just that if you want my support, you should act least make sure your arguments are factually correct. I don't like being manipulated.)