My problem with feminism is that in my experience it comes with a rather restrictive ideology. Many of the people who seem to me to represent feminism shut down discussion on the issues relating to women and respond to any legitimate questions on these issues with insults and accusations.
I don't care about terms very much...
A person who is willing to support both women's rights and men's rights has my respect. A person who is against rape but can see the issues about due process also has my respect. A person who can look objectively the real scientific problems with commonly thrown around rape statistics without calling people "rape apologists" also has my respect.
I support women's rights. I support pay equality and workplace fairness. I support a woman's right to choose. I support efforts to reduce rape and provide support for victims.
But I also support due process for people accused of rape, and I support custody rights for fathers. I support real scientific discussion about claimed rape statics and fairness in the response on campuses. And, I support artistic expression without censorship.
It is the latter list, and my impression (which I think is reasonably supported by people who call themselves feminists) that makes me uncomfortable calling myself a feminist.
And most of all, I support an open discussion on these issues without name calling or personal attacks.
That's my problem.