@knowledgeispower123,
Just going back to this :-
Quote:Men a question? If you and the new woman you were dating had a conversation about pornagraphy being a issue in your lady's past 15 yr marriage. Would you lie, and tell her you never had interest in porn, then 2 yrs in the relationship, go on quite a few of those naked sex hookup sites behind her back? Twice, 3 mos apart. And how many of you when you were caught, would have the gall to say you didn't know anything else to do, to decide if you really wanted to marry your lady.
Ok. So here is the thing. He didn't lie actually. He didn't watch porn your ex-husband did and you did google all about it otherwise, you would not know that it can be a huge addiction for someone... nor join as knowledgeispower.
He did not lie because you chose someone "worse". A cheater not a lier. He was trying or did score other women, either via webcam or in real life, text messages or emails... He wanted the real touch to it, not like your ex-husband just viewing. And, he was caught because you snooped.
Now here is the thing. This guy has a high sex drive, likes variety, perhaps even slutty. So he comments to you " I didn't know what else to do, I was trying to ascertain if you were marriage material or not sexually".
Mis-match sexually? Sounds that way to me. But, from what you originally wrote it's clear to me anyway that he didn't lie. Porn and Sex dating hook up sites are two different things.
My fiancé watched Porn. I found it accidentally as I used his laptop to go onto my Forums and went to History as I forgot my password for a business site for work that's what I do, play and work, work and play. My only concern was his 11 year old daughter comes over every couple of weeks she's 17 now. That she may see it.. With that he promptly deleted the history and ensured it never to be seen again. I found it interesting as he looked at all sorts of women, different colour, size .. He separated from his wife at that time and spent 9 months living in the same house because of his daughter, not wanting to leave her. He can look at it if he wants but he hasn't now in years.
People have told you of their own stories of knowing their man has or does watch Porn. I've even had a wee look myself on occasions out of curiosity mainly because of the amount of threads I read, where women felt so belittled trying to work out why. Came apparent to me that it was in-security. In my opinion if you love yourself and own yourself and know you are important (which you keep harping on), then you aren't in-secure and you can easily put it down to "assistance" in the bedroom, "curiosity" the desire to stay with one woman the one you are with but not exactly give up all those good times you had as a teenager, early 20's guy "if that was your thing". But, nothing against the woman you are with, unless as everyone has told you, you are neglected sexually, intimately, be-littled and asked to do things you are not comfortable with.
Quote:I have a healthy self esteem, I don't deserve to be disrespected with lies, and a man in my life who feels it's ok to flirt with easy women.
You know? Some of those women got sick and tied of being used and decided to use. Some, had low self esteem to the hilt and didn't feel worthy. Some had the hell approach I love sex and interacting and give a ****. Some like the money involved, be it finding a sugar daddy to pay or paid sites. Calling them easy suggests that you don't have respect for women and their choices in life.
I think you may find that your way of thinking is anger at yourself, after all if you have a healthy esteem are sexy ended up with two partners that wanted more women in their lives, one way or another, you've either made really bad decisions of whom to go out with, or aren't giving them enough to make them want to respect your wishes. In my opinion.
