How old were you when you had your 1st boyfriend/girlfriend?

Twelve. He asked me to go to a movie with him. I was completely stupefied, and it turned out, so was he. We took the bus. I had run out of things to bring up to talk about by the time we got a few blocks from the bus stop. We didn't talk the rest of the date.

He was probably stunned by my asking him if he liked basketball. He was quite short. This didn't dawn on me until later. His cousin happened to be tall and handsome.
When he walked me to my door, I turned around and said I had a very nice time.

I was way older when I had my first sex, and it was fantastic and somewhat set me up for a good life of liking sex, besides knowing that interesting person.

I think of early teens as a time for crushes, which I think are pretty good to experience, both wonderful and excruciating - but not to act on. It's a process.

Depends on how you define boyfriend.

Oh crushes, definately.

First boyfriend, I was 15 nearly 16, although he didn't become my first:)

No, my parents refused to allow me to have a boyfriend, ulitmately, we broke up.

Then they refused for me to go to parties where there were boys, ulimately, I left home:)

Did your parents know or did you not tell them? Or were they cool about it or what?

ossobuco wrote:

Twelve. He asked me to go to a movie with him. I was completely stupefied, and it turned out, so was he. We took the bus. I had run out of things to bring up to talk about by the time we got a few blocks from the bus stop. We didn't talk the rest of the date.

He was probably stunned by my asking him if he liked basketball. He was quite short. This didn't dawn on me until later. His cousin happened to be tall and handsome.
When he walked me to my door, I turned around and said I had a very nice time.

Twelve?! Thats younger than I am. Not fair...
Why were you guys soo awkward and weird? Weren't you friends first or were you strangers?

Because we were strangers - he liked me from afar. I sort of liked him, he was funny. It's true the cousin whom I guess was preferred in the family sent me a valentine in fourth grade with a heart cushioned on the front page..
so looking back decades later, maybe that had something to do with it.

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I was way older when I had my first sex, and it was fantastic and somewhat set me up for a good life of liking sex, besides knowing that interesting person.

HAHA! Ewww. TMI, Osso. I don't really wanna talk about sex. Especially not here with you guys. besides, dating doesn't mean you have sex.

Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but the question of sex does come up.

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I think of early teens as a time for crushes, which I think are pretty good to experience, both wonderful and excruciating - but not to act on. It's a process.

Anyone can have a crush. Everyone does actually. I have tons of crushes but dating is different. Why do you think it's not good to act on crushes?

Sex is powerful.