Osso, I always hit reply all...... bad habit.
I agree, better out than in, as they say. It was really stressing me out - heart pounding, tiredness, depression. Getting paid matters, but getting it off my chest is much better even.
I'm glad you feel better and hope things just keep getting better for you.
(((((((Littlek)))))))
I'm glad to hear this, littlek. Whatever your sister gives you, I hope it'll be enough to tide you over -- so you won't have to worry about looking for other work.
It won't be long now, and you won't have to deal with this type of situation anymore.
Now you can concentrate on the really important things -- like, how to avoid your housemate for the next few weeks! :wink:
Actually, house fix up with fishin' sounds good to me. If I had m'life to do over, I might do that over anything else, having done a bunch of it and Still Not Being Deterred.
The fishin expidition sounds good to me, too. But.... I think I could get a day out of my landlady. And I think that I could get several days out of the woman my mom knows who's dying of cancer (this will kill me too), and then the rest I can get make up by working for my parents, though I'm loath to do it. Maybe I'll try to put in some volunteer work for them for August.
I need to get my ducks in a row. Quinn also had some interesting options.
One problem is that I have scheduled some doc and e\dentist work in those two weeks, here in cambridge. The dentistry will put me out of commission for a day, prolly. I need to do other stuff, like bring my car in to the dealership for a free thingie, which I can't do while I am working.
Need to get the ducks lined up and penciled in.
Sounds like you are getting things together...whew! Fine job gal, and good to hear too.
well, my ducks seem to be a little recalcitrant....
Sis wrote back her own rant. And then emailed a post script saying she felt guilty. Not for not paying me, but for ranting about it. I told her it was supposed to be good for us and not to feel guilty.
um .... anything positive (like about the $$$ she should be paying you?) in the rant, k?
pfffft! No. She did through in a couple things she should feel guilty about. Like how she feels weird that I am taking care of her kids and that I am so angry all the time. Oh, and that I've complained about caring for her kids every day for the last 7 years.
She avoiding the real issue. The money she owes you.
Stick to your guns, k!
Oh, and how she feels like she's been in an abusive relationship with me for a month. And that she some how thinks I am relaying this to her kids.
I realize that not many of you know me in person, but those are absurd statements.
Quote:I realize that not many of you know me in person, but those are absurd statements.
Well, I only know you from A2K. But I also know those are absurd statements.
Your sis is probably just feeling defensive, littlek.
littlek wrote:I'm sure she is.
And she has good reason. Her position is indefensible, though. <sigh>
k, do you think things are "coming to a head" because your employment arrangement with her will be ending soon?
MsO, I dunno. I was talking with Dasha last night or this morning about background reasons. It's seems there is something else. Maybe because It'll all be over soon.
littlek wrote:Oh, and how she feels like she's been in an abusive relationship with me for a month. And that she some how thinks I am relaying this to her kids.
I realize that not many of you know me in person, but those are absurd statements.
That is a very nasty thing for her to say.
I sincerely doubt there's any truth in it, judging from how you've written about your work/relationship with her children here ... for years & years.
It'd be a good idea to ask her to keep the family/emotional manipulative stuff out of what is basically an employment/pay issue.
It's really hard to do that, MsO. I've tried, but I know I haven't been able to keep it apart. Thankfully, she had CCd her hubby and our mom in her response as well. So, at least there are a couple of witnesses who might help us wade through the details. I asked her hubby to speak up and let me know that he felt the same way as she used quite a few "we"s.
I can't imagine having to locate another nanny that could be trusted and relied upon in the way she has been able to trust and rely on you. That thought is probably really getting to her. It may affect her ability to put in the hours she has been working and will very likely cost her and her husband a lot more money.
I think the important thing for you to remember is that you have your own life to live and you are not to feel guilty about your new career path. She has to learn to live without you, but that isn't your problem. Leave it where it belongs.
She did mention how much she appreciated me and my relationship with her kids. She also mentioned all the perks I get. I don't get cash bonuses, but they have given me some nice bonuses like a well-padded gift card to whole foods for groceries.
I think she should have edited before she sent her response. She said some other pretty nasty things in there. As to Squinney's post, she blamed me for her lack of getting raises (she's only gotten 5 in the last 8 years).
I suspect she knows, somewhere, way down deep, that friends and family don't think highly of how she's treated you over the years.
She's got to come out of this looking better than you, and she'll do anything to make that happen.
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If she had any idea of how you've defended her over the years, she might have the grace to blush at least once.
