Sick of being turned down by wife

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

duckie I just find it very interesting that all the advice he is getting is about how tired she is and he needs to modify his behavior on her behalf..... and that apparently is the only acceptable solution... certainly the only suggested one

Ok, so what's your suggestion? What do you think will work?

Does that me I need to stop paying attention to everything you say?

Well, I did think you were pretty smart for a while there

FreeDuck wrote:

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

duckie I just find it very interesting that all the advice he is getting is about how tired she is and he needs to modify his behavior on her behalf..... and that apparently is the only acceptable solution... certainly the only suggested one

Ok, so what's your suggestion? What do you think will work?

duckie I don't have a suggestion.

I'm just, and I already said it once, stirring the pot and playing devils advocate on this hot button subject for the enjoyment of listening to all the clucking coming out of the henhouse.

This age old problem is eternal, and any time a man says I'm not getting enough the women pull the wagons into a circle. No need arguing or trying to debate seriously about it. On this subject you wimmins is 100% right and the men is wrong and that's that. May just as well try to get cjhsa to join PETA, or McGentrix to become a democrat.

That's it. End of story.

Even Kicky and I understand that. :wink:

Montana wrote:

Well, I did think you were pretty smart for a while there

well that hurts... I still love you but now I'm stupid all of a sudden? I'm going to eat some worms...

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

Montana wrote:

Well, I did think you were pretty smart for a while there

well that hurts... I still love you but now I'm stupid all of a sudden? I'm going to eat some worms...

Awwwww.... there, there Bear. I don't think you're stupid. Just a little misplaced at times ;-)

So, you gonna share some of those worms?

It was more than I expected when i googled "lack of sex" and found this place

Well, i'm still here and I'm thinking that tonight is the night i'm breaking out of the slump. I'll start with telling her the way its going to be...

I dont really have the patience that would be required to try any harder than i already do try.

Without going into tremendous detail, I have given my left arm for this family (as I should)...now here comes the selfishness....I feel that if you do everything that you are supposed to do, in a way that you are supposed to do it, each spouse should make an effort to please and satisfy the others needs.

Enough already on the intimacy vs. sex issue. Here, anyhow, its not an issue for me to give her all the love and attention anyone would want.

I had just heard all the time from men, of course, about how sex stops when you get married. I never thought that would happen to me. Now that it has, I am really unprepared to handle it.

The frustration had reached the point where i was calculating how much child support I'd probably have to pay. I'd bring up counseling and she'd tell me that we dont need it and that i was wrong and that we have a better marriage then most people.
I could never get a divorce. I'm not giving away my kids. Maybe she holds that over me.

Of the things that you think about when getting married, you just skip over this thought because I just assumed that when you are married you have sex alot. Yes it is sex i'm talking about, penis into vagina. We dont have a problem with the other stuff, we hold hands (my offering and insistence of course), I take the kids from the second I walk in from work until I tuck them in at night. Its the after 8pm issue that I have.

I dont really have the patience that would be required to try any harder than i already do try.