Sick of being turned down by wife

You are making the brash assumption that she is chasing after the kids 24/7. The only evidence you have for this is that she is a woman.

There are a growing number of stay at home dads, and an even bigger number of couples who share responsibilities in marriage equally.

The fact that you are willing to make this unfounded statement based only on the fact that she is a woman and he is a man is the dictionary definition of predjudice.

I don't see it like you do.... maybe it has something to do with our respective preconceptions.

Equality means equality. Starting with the assumption that women do more, simply because they are women, is not equality.

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

what exactly is it you disagree with in my post?

The mood I'm in, I'll disagree with every damn letter of it if you get me started! :wink:

There have been a couple of times that women have commented "How nice it is that you are helping to take care of your daughter."

So far, I have been able to hold my tongue... but this is the most insulting thing anyone has ever said to me.

For the record........

I'm just stirring the pot. I find the entire sex, control, whining, women versus men thing hilarious.

Men use sex to get close. Women have to feel close to have sex. Women use sex as a punishment/reward system. Men are cranky if they don't get sex.

There have been a couple of times that women have commented "How nice it is that you are helping to take care of your daughter."

So far, I have been able to hold my tongue... but this is the most insulting thing anyone has ever said to me.

ebrown_p wrote:

There have been a couple of times that women have commented "How nice it is that you are helping to take care of your daughter."

So far, I have been able to hold my tongue... but this is the most insulting thing anyone has ever said to me.

I agree. It used to piss me off that my mother would call it "babysitting" when my husband stayed with the kids for any length of time. Like I was so lucky to have a babysitter to allow me to shirk my motherly duties. Yuck.

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

For the record........

I'm just stirring the pot. I find the entire sex, control, whining, women versus men thing hilarious.

Men use sex to get close. Women have to feel close to have sex. Women use sex as a punishment/reward system. Men are cranky if they don't get sex.

Bear, no need to transfer your own past issues onto every situation. Just because it was that way for you in your first marriage does not mean it is like that in every relationship or even a majority of them.

In this situation, the most obvious cause of the lack of sex interest is the 4 children. Every woman has pointed that out because every woman who has had children, especially more than one, knows what it can do to your sex drive if you let it. For some reason, you prefer the explanation that the evil wife is witholding to punish her husband or to get something she wants. That is total bs, IMO, and I think you know it.

freeduck are you analyzing me? or just making assumptions :wink:

and also, please note your "if you let it". that IS the path of least resistance isn't it?

Who says I'm stressed? Oh, you do. I'm surprised you left out frigid.