Nick29 wrote:I guess so far u say I made a big mistake by not letting her know about my sexual preferences before marriage, which I agree. At the same time she also needs to understand about her husband needs and like abouts. And now that I overcome the situation of me being prey to Online Sex Hunters and not falling for One Night Stands, which is a resolution within me. And I dont want to do another msitake of telling her about this and embarass her for lifetime. Rather I will tell her that I had sex with my earlier girlfriend and she is not in my life anymore.
You aren't listening, Nick.
Let me put this as plainly as I can.
The title of your thread says you are a married bisexual. SO TELL HER YOU ARE BISEXUAL. Tell her you have had sex with many men as well as with women. (No names.) You can tell her you don't intend to continue this behavior, but don't continue to mislead her about your preferences and history. It is totally unfair to ask her to make a commitment to you when she doesn't know the whole story. That is called "fraud."
You've told us...and we're perfect strangers. Doesn't she deserve the truth more than we do?
You need to own up to the fact that you haven't been honest, Nick. It's not HER that you're worried about embarrassing, it's YOURSELF. You're trying to salvage this situation without losing your marriage, your family or your self-worth. But unless you're honest...with yourself AND them...you're only going to make things worse.