Help me restore my marriage? Bisexual here

Sounds like MPD. Get help.

The taboo against homosexuality discourages most people from acting on their natural tendency to bi-sexuality.

True.

Nick, I havn't read this thread, but I wonder. Does your family know about your gay affinities? And do you think you could love and be faithful to a man?
It does seem to me that your major problem is promiscuity, not bi-sexuality. Very few people can have a long-term successful marriage, and with your bi-sexual drives (I don't mean potentialities; that may be true of all of us), your chances of success in marriage are unlikely--I think. If I'm right, don't you think you should be very wary of heterosexual marriage, if only for the sake of your fiance?

There is an unspoken presumption in your text that the length of a marriage is proportional to its success. Something I would counter.

Chumly, you may be right. I even think that divorces are sometimes made in heaven. But I'm assuming that Nick wants a long-term marriage.

I should have said:
There *may be* an unwritten presumption......

"divorces are sometimes made in heaven"

I don't know if you are male or female, idealistic or realistic, but I have gone into every marriage and every relationship with the clear thought that nothing is forever, and that success is not based on duration.

I think it's safe to say that Nick wants it all, and who can blame him, at least in principle?

Nick is perhaps suffering a profound ambivalence. He's going to have to unify himself eventually, with pain, honesty, and courage.
Best of luck to you, Nick.

Coming from you, I'll take that as a compliment.

A journey of Life is sweet and sour as you take it and as what it seems to you.

I think you have love and Lust mixed up. Lust lasts as long as your erection Love is a stronger bond that you have with another and it doesn't just go away when the blood returns to your head. Sounds like your not done having fun nor were you ready to say i do. You only tlak of how many times you have had sex. Sex has it's place in being married but it's not all that being married is about. You really need to understand what love is. You should let her go and find herself again. Then you need to find out what you are about and who your are. You can't possibly love some one when you don't even know yourself. So my advice is learn who you are. and when you figure that out well then you will have grown and be ready for the next steps in life with a man or female or by yourself. Hope I wasn't to blunt. Have a good day.