Where to talk about desperation? (dating)

can you be more specific? I don§t understand.

Several people advised to quit drinking because it is bad. I am not quitting because they are not right. If they were, I would quit already.

"Search for your flaws. If you find none, THAT is the flaw". -> Are you crazy??

"go seek professional help" -> well clearly, some people are...

Date people you don't find attractive" -> I already used words for that!


You know what, you know what, you are right. I am going to do as you tell me. Btw, which way is easiest to commit suicide? I am asking on completely unrelated note

No, honestly, I can virtually smell your depression 10 000 km across atlantic.


Anyway,

@izzythepush gave some actually good advices! I thank him for that! I just hope I did not forget anyone else. It is evening and I am very tired and hungry. If I did, my apology to that non depressed person .



I AM thankful for attention, replies, advices, but I am not going to yes man to advices that smell like from one depressed person to another one. If you don't like it... well

Sorry, I have had too little carbs today

A word of advice, if you want to advice people on such extremely sensitive topics like dating, romance, try to do it in a way they don't even notice they are being advised. Trust me, works like miracle

and once again sorry for the sharp tone, I had 4 hours of training today and barely piece of bread when it comes to carbs I just can't talk in different way now

Well, if you're going half assed about not eating carbs, then eating bread, read this thread.

https://able2know.org/topic/351222-1

I am not sure what your goal is or what you want the forum members to help you with. You mention ruthless, but the way you used it doesn't click with me, can you explain what you mean?

So what is the end game here, are you looking for a solid friendship as well as a more intimate one? Maybe you are too intense when you are attracted to women, it can be extremely off-putting to women if you are too eager....makes them feel like a slab of meat....most gals don't find that flattering or attractive. But I don't think men or women want someone who is too clingy, it can be suffocating.

I would also caution you against using the term 'redneck', I'm not sure it actually describes a person living 10,000 miles across the Atlantic. So far you have been getting advice from Canadians, Americans and British people, what works in our societies may not work in yours. It's still unclear to me where you live, it might make a difference in the advice you get.

You were advised to quit drinking alcohol because it makes you even more depressed than what you already are. You were advised to not be concerned about a woman's looks because outside beauty fades but a great personality doesn't. You were advised to get into therapy but you feel that can't possibly help because you're perfect the way you are.

You say to ask questions so ok....

Do you think being an ass to everyone and any one you interact with is the only solution to getting a positive response?

Then again, if you're a booze hound, you're not kicking the carbs anyway.

I'm sure though, in your head, you make perfect sense to yourself.

You can always tell an alcoholic.....you just can't tell him much.

this!

That tweet was funny, and true.

Personally, I think the list of positve attributes this guy listed as what he brings to the table reads like the instructions on how to change the toner cartridge on your printer.
Sure, it would be important to me that a man I might have interest in have a good job he's happy at, and earns a living wage. Educated? Well, depends on what his education was, and if he's using it, or it's interesting.

Working on getting perfect abs? Yawn. If that's what he thinks is going to make a woman be interested in you long term, well, I just don't know.

My impression of the OP is that he would be someone who would turn on you in an instant. That's what he's been doing here at least.

I don't think he likes women, or people in general, very much.

I found his story about the receptionist he was interested in at work very odd. Well, discussing women in general really. Like we are some sort of prey that he's hunting. If the woman shows no interest, it doesn't occur to him that it might not be him, but that the woman may just not be interested in meeting anyone to date. It's like he thinks all women are ready and waiting all the time to go out with someone.

Mostly, this drinking thing, and his insistance that it's not an issue, is such a huge red flag.

Whether he's actively drinking at any particular moment or not, it's still a big part of the reason he's so volatile.

I just lost an entire post while trying to post an emoji....the irony is I usually hate emoji's and just wanted to make a point about all those damn happy face emoji's the OP peppers his posts for emphasis (exactly what, I don't know, it's like nervous laughter...)

I should feel angry as usual, but I feel good. The office assistants girl is ignoring me, clearly happy in new relationship, dancing partner grumpy as usual, but does not matter. I like dancing. And I like people there. I am fine

Next week I have private lessons with one teacher there. I have never seen more charming woman in my life

Life is good

plus I can do a little bit better jiving. Wooohoo

Hahaha! Reading some of your conversations up

Lol, that ABS haters! Hahahaha! Yeah, and than girls see ones and totally fall for it

And here is the magic pill: don't be a douche! All hate douches, no matter how great ABS have, but as long as gentleman has some shape, guess what - all fall for him! And guess what again? That is exactly the reason I am learning to dance




Anyway, imma drink nao

I kinda have to apologize to you, your advice "play lack of dancing skills as your weakness" does work - to dancing teachers

You are a smart man, man! Southampton has the best Don Juans

We could do with more peyote.

uhm...what? O.o

"Then again, if you're a booze hound, you're not kicking the carbs anyway.

I'm sure though, in your head, you make perfect sense to yourself."

Lol, this is gonna be sweet. I know all the time we are talking in here about coulda shoulda woulda but here I can send actual pic and shut you internet mormon preachers up once and for all. Too bad I am too drunk right now, so wait till European morning