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Youzer! That's pretty harse. You do forget that I have completely given up porn becuase its hard to reconcile with my religous beliefs and thus defend as acceptable behavior to my wife. HOWEVER, I do think it is very naive to think that 90% of men do not engage in this activity or that doing so makes them a wholly unnacceptable choice for a partner. I think you are judging people WAY to harsly. Just becuase you had an ex boyfriend tell you the "normal man" defense of porn was "bullshit" doesn't make you an expert on the subject of what is "normal" and what is freakish, destructive, or so immorral as to make someone unworthey of a committed relationship. Statistically, the vast majority of men from 18-30 watch porn. This does NOT make it moral or justified. But it DOES, by DEFINITION, make it normal. Surlely this does not mean that the vast majority of men are unsuitable for a committed relationship.[/quote]
When I read Montana's post, I felt she was saying that men who engage in porn make them a wholly unnacceptable partner for HER. As someone already stated, some marriages are open, some couples swing, some engage in porn as a couple or as individuals, and some are porn free. As someone who's been hurt by porn in the past, Montana seems very sure of the kind of relationship she wants (or doesn't want). The fact that 90% of men use porn (is it really that high??) sure leaves few men for the pickin (for HER).
My apolozies ahead of time if the quote thingy doesn't work..newbie here