rodbogey wrote:Montana wrote:Rod
I never called anyone sick or a goddamn addict, so don't go putting F***ing words in my mouth!!!!! I said I was sickened by it and I also said that I had no problem with people who enjoy it as long as THEY ARE NOT HURTING OTHERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The first sign of intolerance is when people become violent, even with their words.
You said you were "normal" because you did not like porn, right? So what's the opposite? "abnormal", isn't it? I used a synonim for what you've been pointing out. I'm sorry if I used "goddamn addict", which you did not say, but for the comments you've posted we all can read that you consider porn as a sick habit, that's why you agree with the statements coming from Dr. Phil's text.
Finally, I'll come back where I started. If you don't like it, fine, go on and leave everybody else alone with their likes or dislikes about porn. And please, don't try to think your thoughts are truth or normal just because they're yours. What I think is that you shoud read more about sexuality and the evolution of sexual behaviors and not take something for granted just because some Dr. Phil says it. Please, read what other scientists have said about porn and then come back and post.
LOL!! If you see me as violent, you obviously know nothing at all about me and just reading the things you have to say about me is proof of that.
I do feel strongly about this subject, but I did not come in here to judge.
I said porn sickens me, but I did not say or do I think that people who like it are sick. I also didn't say or do I feel they are not normal. I simply said that I didn't like being treat like a freak because I'm normal and that did not mean that you or anyone who feels the way that you do isn't normal. I was upset because I was treated like I wasn't normal and still am.
I respect the opinions of everyone here, except for those who think someone who is hurt by it "should get over it" and "learn to live with it.
If you had paid attention to my responses here and on other threads, you'd know where I actually stand here, but you continue to make you own definitions for what I'm saying.
Stop trying to read between the lines because what I say is what I mean and nothing more.
The only reasons I come into these threads is to show my support to women who are suffering. I want them to know that they are not alone in how they feel and that there's nothing wrong with them because they feel this way, but I end up getting heated because some people come along to challenge our feelings and tell us that we are making a big deal out of nothing and that we should get over it. That's an insult to us and shows absolutely no regard for our very hurt feelings.
I stated in one of my previous posts that I was not a big fan of Dr. Phil, so there you go again, assuming! I liked what he had to say and that's it.
I don't need to read about sexuality or about evolution of sexual behaviors, thank you very much. The way myself and many many women out there feel about it isn't going to change no matter what we read. We feel cheated on when our men watch porn and it would be like telling you to get use to it or over it if your loved one went out and slept with another man.
I wish I felt the way many women do here who don't mind or enjoy it themselves. In fact, I envy them, but I don't and can't feel that way and it would break me down to tollerate it in my love life, as it has in the past.
What's fine for you may not be fine for someone else and it's not a question of who's right or wrong.
Knowing the pain it causes me and many other women, I do think it's selfish of our men to continue watching porn with no regard for how it makes us feel and I completely feel that their priorities are out of place. I know I don't want to spend one second with a man who thinks porm is more important than I am.
Anyway, I did a lot of thinking last night and I'm going to try my damndest not to get upset about these things anymore. I will continue to show my support to women to are in pain because helping people is important to me. I just wish we could support eachother without some invalidating our feelings by telling us to get over it.
These women are here looking for support and that's what they should get!
