My husband won't give up porn !!

Yes, you must pick your battles. Is it straight porn, lesbian porn, or gay midget bukkake porn?

Well here is a reality check, men watch porn. That doesn't meen he doesn't find you attractive or wants any other women but you. He watches porn becuase men have a natural deisre to collect women. They also have a natural desire to be monogomous. This conflict promts them the seek subsitutes for thier more primative desires, and porn noadays is so easy to obtain, its often hard to resist. This isn't right, good or moral, but it is pretty normal. And I don't think it means your husband doesn't love you, find you attractive, or is a bad husband in general.

You'll notice that most of these women who are upset over porn stumbled upon it after their husband or boyfriend swore he wasn't looking at it.

No I haven't .... but they are out there, I'm sure. Men are just better at keeping emotions bottled up.

My x used to get mad at me for watching football. I have been into sports for as long as I can remember and football is my favorite. He said I was just watching it to see the tight asses in their uniforms. So you can imagine if he ever caught me looking at porn. Actually he loved porn videos and used to drag em out alot when were together. But that was ok cause it was him or him and I together.

I think alot of it does have to do with insecurities. Personally, to me, it's just a bunch of naked bodies - therefore I can't really relate to why everyone gets so upset. BUT - I can still feel bad for someone that does.

Mit2727, there are men who love porn and there are women who love porn, but don't delude yourself that porn is 'NORMAL'[/i]. It is not normal, it is a sickness just like pedophelia or incest is.

Unless a married couple both enjoy porn, the marriage is doomed. Nobody can compete with those pictures which, by the way, are just silicone, makeup, teenagers who have run away from home and can find no other way or means of making a living, therefore, you are watching sad lives unfold and you should not revel in such sadness.

We are already living in a sick world, don't contribute to it.

Mit2727, there are men who love porn and there are women who love porn, but don't delude yourself that porn is 'NORMAL'[/i]. It is not normal, it is a sickness just like pedophelia or incest is.

Unless a married couple both enjoy porn, the marriage is doomed.

Nobody can compete with those pictures which, by the way, are just silicone, makeup, teenagers who have run away from home and can find no other way or means of making a living, therefore, you are watching sad lives unfold and you should not revel in such sadness.

We are already living in a sick world, don't contribute to it.

Unless a married couple both enjoy porn, the marriage is doomed.

justa_babbling_brooke wrote:

No I haven't .... but they are out there, I'm sure. Men are just better at keeping emotions bottled up.

My x used to get mad at me for watching football. I have been into sports for as long as I can remember and football is my favorite. He said I was just watching it to see the tight asses in their uniforms. So you can imagine if he ever caught me looking at porn. Actually he loved porn videos and used to drag em out alot when were together. But that was ok cause it was him or him and I together.

I think alot of it does have to do with insecurities. Personally, to me, it's just a bunch of naked bodies - therefore I can't really relate to why everyone gets so upset. BUT - I can still feel bad for someone that does.

So basically you're saying that you love football and you're comfortable watching porn with your partner?

<on my knees, holding brooke's hand>

Brooke, would you marry me?

rodbogey wrote:

justa_babbling_brooke wrote:

No I haven't .... but they are out there, I'm sure. Men are just better at keeping emotions bottled up.

My x used to get mad at me for watching football. I have been into sports for as long as I can remember and football is my favorite. He said I was just watching it to see the tight asses in their uniforms. So you can imagine if he ever caught me looking at porn. Actually he loved porn videos and used to drag em out alot when were together. But that was ok cause it was him or him and I together.

I think alot of it does have to do with insecurities. Personally, to me, it's just a bunch of naked bodies - therefore I can't really relate to why everyone gets so upset. BUT - I can still feel bad for someone that does.

I see your point and I also think no one should be forced to enjoy or accept something he/she does not like. And no one should be treated like a sick person just because he/she likes porn.

So you love football and are into art. Geez! that's the kind of woman i'm looking for!

So basically you're saying that you love football and you're comfortable watching porn with your partner?

<on my knees, holding brooke's hand>

Brooke, would you marry me?

It's not so much the PORN aspect. I just love naked bodies. I'm not an artist - but I do alot of drawing. Naked bodies are art to me. Each one unique in it's own way. I think this is probably one reason why I have no problem with it. I know porn is not the same as art - however it is one reason it can be pleasurable.

In defense of women who do though - I can feel their pain. Doesn't matter if it's porn or something else. If it's hurting the marriage - it needs to be dealt with. There should be some kind of compromise - without demands.

rodbogey wrote:

justa_babbling_brooke wrote:

No I haven't .... but they are out there, I'm sure. Men are just better at keeping emotions bottled up.

My x used to get mad at me for watching football. I have been into sports for as long as I can remember and football is my favorite. He said I was just watching it to see the tight asses in their uniforms. So you can imagine if he ever caught me looking at porn. Actually he loved porn videos and used to drag em out alot when were together. But that was ok cause it was him or him and I together.

I think alot of it does have to do with insecurities. Personally, to me, it's just a bunch of naked bodies - therefore I can't really relate to why everyone gets so upset. BUT - I can still feel bad for someone that does.

So basically you're saying that you love football and you're comfortable watching porn with your partner?

<on my knees, holding brooke's hand>

Brooke, would you marry me?

It's not so much the PORN aspect. I just love naked bodies. I'm not an artist - but I do alot of drawing. Naked bodies are art to me. Each one unique in it's own way. I think this is probably one reason why I have no problem with it. I know porn is not the same as art - however it is one reason it can be pleasurable.

In defense of women who do though - I can feel their pain. Doesn't matter if it's porn or something else. If it's hurting the marriage - it needs to be dealt with. There should be some kind of compromise - without demands.