@hawkeye10,
Quote:Sometimes you just have to let the past stay in the past.
hawkeye10 wrote:More often it is that we need to take
the best that they could do as good enough. We are not Gods!
Yea, Hawkeye, but we can handle the facts,
the social dynamics,
that r presently available to us, for as long as their availability
actually continues. In this particular case, Mo has it within
his ability to go over there, raise his hand in a friendly wave,
and say: "Hi, Mom! How are u doing? What 's new?" if so he chooses.
I can think of an ex-cousin-in-law, George, who was possessed
by remorse for the rest of his life, for failure to have identified
and contacted his birth mother. He
moaned about it
at birthday & holiday family gatherings, for years n decades.
At the time, I shared a similar plight, in regard to a
girl
with whom I was obsessed, but with whom I 'd lost contact.
It sure
felt better when I had my issue resolved (tho I was rejected),
but George never got the satisfaction of resolution.
As he entered the later stages of his life,
presumably his birth mom had ex-carnated of old age.
Too ofen, I 've learned that: "he who hesitates is lost." Risky.
I wish that I had resolved my obsession a lot sooner than I did.
I went thru a lot of un-necessary emotional discomfort.
All I needed to do was to hire a private detective
a lot sooner than I did.