They are judging allright.
Even they saying they don't.
I said it million times here that I would never get into this situation if I could not. And I had tried for years to be just good friends. And I had never cheated before. And I am only cheating in my head now. And I know if I could take my brain out and wash it and get it out of there I would.
I guess it is hard for people who are in a stale waters to understand when those waters are clearing up and you see yourself as a new one, and you are happy and even you know it will not go anywhere - its there and there is no cure but time. And I am doubting it is even time. Because you found your half which is not yours.