@JoeCCib,
JoeCCib wrote:Thought I was all about sex since every time I held her I got a little too excited I guess. I would argue for days about it then finally get her love.
doesn't sound like arguing got you her love - sounds more like what you got was a pity ****
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arguing is not often a way to get to a pleasurable sexual experience
your information that your wife pleasures herself to reach orgasm sounds like she's more successful at reaching orgasm without you
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what have you done over the years to find out what she enjoys sexually? does she like role-playing? using sex toys? talking dirty?
you've been married 25 years - by this point you should know a fair bit about what makes sex fun and enjoyable for your wife - what gets her excited?
do you ever play games where sexual acts can be a reward? if it's not fun, it can be a chore
date nights, sex nights, play nights
are you and your wife having fun on a general basis?
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25 years of marriage - you've got to keep things mixed up to make sure sex is still fun and entertaining
if the two of you can't manage a fun sex life on your own, you may need to work with a therapist