First time cheater, why did it happen after I'd finally got married???!!

@BillRM,

Gee, Bill.

It's right neighborly of you to be so condescending and all, but the last time I looked you weren't in charge of the membership committee.

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@JPB,

Gee, Bill.

It's right neighborly of you to be so condescending and all, but the last time I looked you weren't in charge of the membership committee.
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A suggest/question as below is not an order or are you not able to understand that?

"Now why do you not just go away and either destroy two families futures or save two families futures as it in the end that is in your hands not ours."

In any case she come here knowing the right answer and looking for support for the wrong answer and we had all done that over a great number of posts on this thread have we not?

Is there any little part of this subject of a mate cheating on a partner with children in the mixed that we had not cover over and over for the lady?

It is past time for her to begin dealing with the mess she had created in real life, also in my opinion.

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@spendius,

Not referring to you by your username was not a diss. For that I apologize. In the depth of my writing I could not recall whom questioned that particular bit. Which is why I stated 'to the person that questions....' I have no ill feelings about any of the comments posted here. And thank you for the time you've spent debating it. Not only have I shared my life experience, but I'm reading others & giving my own comments & advice. So please don't think me, unwilling to be judged by my words or actions; for the judgement here, is not what worries me.

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@BillRM,

it is, however, her life and her mess

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@BillRM,

Your point is well received. I'm here for the feedback ... Good, bad or indifferent. Instead of asking me to go away & destroy or save two families... Why don't you go away? It's my post.

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@djjd62,

it is, however, her life and her mess
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True and so what?
She in the One who post here starting a thread concerning it not me.

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@Conflicted,

bill is a legend in his own mind, he believes he knows the answer to everything

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@Conflicted,

Instead of asking me to go away & destroy or save two families... Why don't you go away? It's my post.
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You mean it you thread I would assume.

In any case as I said we had all spend a lot of our time covering the subject and in my opinion it is now your time to act.

You at the moment have a sword hanging over not just your head but a numbers of children heads and it will give way sooner or later and more likely sooner.

So what benefit are you now getting from hearing the same thing over and over as the sword is hanging waiting to drop?

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@BillRM,

Again you fail to realize 'I DON'T NEED SUPPORT'!
What the heck is a bunch of support from strangers gonna do for me. Having 'support' doesn't change the fact that the situation is wrong. The one thing you are right about is that I full well know my actions are wrong. I didn't need to post for support to learn that.
I assure you in 'real life' I am dealing with it.
It's apparent that some of you think that by a person posting on these types of forums are looking for professional advice.... NOT... It is a mere way to vent & converse. Life happens... Many situations that you probably couldn't even imagine happen to people everyday. It's nice to have a place that allows me to learn about em' and give my two cent.

Thanks for your two cent.

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@djjd62,

bill is a legend in his own mind, he believes he knows the answer to everything
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I do........

In any case this issue is not rocket science and about as straight forward as any relationship matter could be.

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@BillRM,

perhaps you should take up rocket science, maybe you could get back to your home planet

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@Conflicted,

I gave you a whole dime not 2 cents but ok however I still do not see what benefits you are getting here or trying to get here,

So you are being unfaithful and by so doing you are placing children in harm way and seem to wish to keep doing so until your husband find out and get rid of you.

I can see that when your husband find out his need to vent but not your!

Not a new story at all in the history of the human race in any case.

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@BillRM,

Bill, you're cracking me up here.

What's it to you if you don't understand what benefit someone else gets by being here? What benefit do you get by being here? Going on about why someone else is here and not off doing your bidding is making you look like an ass. Oh, wait...

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@BillRM,

That is the whole point: It's not for YOU to understand what I'm trying to get from the post. Seriously, not being condesending -thanks for the input. It may be hard to believe... But before I was a cheater... I never understood the psyche of it all either.

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@JPB,

We are so on the same wave length! Just whn I read how billrm responds & answer, I read & see that u also have a similar view... Funny.
You guys have a great day... I gotta get some errands done.

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@Conflicted,

We are all saying the things anyone could predict such a group would say and I seen nothing posted here that is surprising to me or should be to you.

So cheater what is the benefits you are getting that it is not for me to understand? Give us/me a hint as a payback for all the time we had spend on you up to this point.

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@BillRM,

The sword is waiting to drop.......

I don't need to hear the same things over & over. It's a thread & folks have the right to post as long as they feel they have valid input. You've posted, yet you continue to so, & that's right. Let this be your last word on it & allow others to do ad they please. It's only beating a dead horse, when you feel it's no longer revelant, yet continue to post on said thread.

Food for thought.

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@BillRM,

Well one benefit is each minute I spend on here reading & offering feedback is time that I don't spend talking to or being with my lover. But it's also taking time away from my hubby.... So I'm out... Have a great November day!

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I am slowly coming to the conclusion that the odds of you being for real is getting smaller and smaller.

Too many things does not make sense here if you was a real lady cheating on her husband.

If you are hoaxing us that would be great to know as at least that would mean that children would not be in harm way.

Doing some research paper perhaps or just enjoying pulling off a internet hoax?

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@Gala,

Gala wrote:

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There are how many children caught up amongst both his and your families?

If you are under any sort of misconception that how is pans out only effects you, snap out of it. There is no way the pay off is worth the risk. If things are lame with the husband, don't let your relationship with your kids be a casualty of your curiosity. He has kids too. This really isn't acceptable.

It's not about liking or disliking cheaters either. If no kids were involved, I'd be inclined to just say: "Do as you wish. You know the consequences, and it's your conscious to answer too."

This is NOT that case.
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I think the payoff is worth the risk for some. And you seem to be blaming Conflicted for all of this, there is a guy involved too.

Her boyfriend is a young guy with a bunch of toddlers-- he must be stressed out of his mind with the responsibility and probably ought to have waited a little while before producing a small litter of children. Add to that a bit of boredom with the day-to-day repetitive resposibilites involved with raising a family.

I can see why it's appealing for Conflicted, she's peaking sexually and here's this young guy who just needs an escape from all the responsibilities.

Affairs with married people are just that-- affairs, they happen all the time.

I understand why it's appealing too. That in itself does not mean I think it is good judgement.

Affairs happening all the time doesn't green light an affair.

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