Online dating, flirting and dating burn-out.

ehhhhhhhhhhhhBeth, it's you dear woman. Good morning. No undies? Sundress on? Buttoned all the way up? :wink:

I'm going to call later, listen to what she has to say. I'll decide then whether to ask her to do something. She suddenly is being invited to luncheons at the school. I think people may be starting to take her seriously and are asking her questions. Definitely a woman to be reckoned with in her field of science.

I don't want to let romance get in the way of progress. If you know what I mean. I like it when she gets "career." You know what I mean? A real turn-on when she spouts professorial. Only for a minute or so, a couple of witty comments maybe. Not too much. :wink:

Jack, Jack, still the chauvinist de jour.

If you respect this woman, you had called her on Thursday to ask if she was available for you on the weekend. Instead you assume she has nothing better to do than to wait for your phone call 2 hours beforehand where you'll decide if you ask her to
do something. How gracious of you!

If she's smart, she'll turn you down.

Obviously Calamity Jane, you are entirely too structured. What do you have a book of dos and don'ts that has rules; one of which states that you call on Thursday if you expect to get together on the weekend?

I am a gentleman and I certainly respect ALL women not just this particular one. I am also romantic, spontaneous. True, sometimes I dwell on things like now but not often.

She will NOT turn me down because I phrase things so she may not simply turn me down. Not that she would. Certainly the worst to be expected is the dear woman might say: Oh, I can't let's do it tomorrow at eight OK?

Isn't that what YOU would say if I invited you to dinner Calamity Jane? Of course it is. :wink:

No Jack, where I come from, we don't have any dating rules
at all. However, this is a long holiday weekend and people
do make plans ahead of time.

But what really struck me was your statement "I'll decide then whether to ask her....." which is to me a very condescending way of asking for a date.

Not at all Calamity Jane. I will simply feel her out. She may simply want me to come down and enjoy the day in her house as we have done a number of times before, she may have something in mind about where she would like to go. I always attempt to give her the opportunity for the first idea unless I already have a good one such as a surprise.

Well it will be none of the above. I called and neither she nor her daughter answer. I left a message.

So did she have plans over the long weekend?

I didn't ask her Heeven. There are two areas she more than likely was involved with. Her older son or her younger teen age daughter. I don't like to be involved in anything where those two are concerned. They are nice but I feel like I am an outsider, and rightfully so. I would have to pretend I was interested in them and I am not. I would have to act like some geek smiling, encouraging people I have absolutely no interest in and could care less about.

There is NO basis for anything else with them. I am not their "Dad" thank God! This isn't the movies.

Yesterday (Sunday) I took her to lunch at a very nice restaurant and then we went to a matinee (live theatre) which was absolutely great!

Afterwards we had coffee and talked for awhile, went our separate ways. She went home to her daughter and I went home to my dog after a very pleasant afternoon.

Grrrr.... I give up on this latest round of dating.

Not AGAIN, littlek.

Ok,ok....what happened this time?

The guys apparently not interested, but maybe feels he should be. So, I'm getting unintentionally (I think) jerked around.

Sorry to hear that littlek.

slightly off topic, what is up with the time here on A2K anyway?

cj - s'ok, thanks. What do you mean? The time seems normal to me.

Your last post is stamped 9:08 pm. The time on my local machine is correct. It should read 10:13 PDT for this post (1:13 AM EDT).

On my computer, a2k jives with the real time......

Weird, other boards look OK to me.

Maybe the hampsters are messing with you.

How bizarre, as I read that my son said "Hampsters?". He's in another room.

Do you guys have one as a pet?

Yes, named Speedy. Last night he got loose and the cat almost ate him.

I'm off to bed - g'night.