Hm, my mother has a relationship with a younger man who is 15 years her
junior, and he's not immature by any means. My mother met him 2 years after being widowed and they've been together for over 25 years and still very content with each other.
Of course, there is no such word as all, but most men chasing women older than they are need mothers, not lovers or partners or friends. Either that or they're just trying to prove how "studly" they are.
Ashton Kutcher with Demi Moore and Burt Reynolds with Dinah Shore.
Gee, POM, some guys can think women of various ages as sexy, and some women can think men of various ages as sexy. This happens. Sometimes it may be about mothers, but mostly not.
Where'd you get your data about people trying to be studly? And how do scientists measure that?
You seem to have channels for allowable sexuality.
plainoldme wrote:cjhsa wrote:
How big are your tits?
Tummies are more important.
what individual men and women value in others is as different as they are in themselves.
there are two possibilities in ^^^^ post alone. Some are pulled in by something physical - tits and/or tummies - others are pulled in/attracted to a personal energy that isn't physical at all.
plainoldme wrote:I went to an alumni event last week. At 59, I wear a size 6 and have a flat stomach. I dress well; have a good hair cut and keep my hair its natural gray. I have almost no lines in my face. Bothers me more than a bit to see men elect to talk to women with messy, badly dyed hair; terrible outfits; round shapes with bulging tummies. Jeez!
Maybe there is something about those rounded ladies that is appealing to men - a sense of their own value - their innate sexuality - their humour - their interest in others, not their own appearance - any number of reasons spring to mind.
My first thought is the rounded ladies must be likable.
I haven't figured out why younger men (and women) are so attracted to me. When I figure it out, you all will be the first to know.
beth -- What if men don't care if a woman is well groomed? What if men just talk to the woman nearest them? What if men are afraid of more attractive women? These women weren't fat -- just sort of sloppy looking and their lack of style was more off putting to me than their shapes, but, then, I am a heterosexual woman. Actually, I would have thought the round but jolly stereotype would have fallen by now. What it a woman (I'm thinking of me) just doesn't stand still and doesn't stay in one place long enough to be nabbed (which I sometimes think might happen to me)?
Then there are the women that are obvious rhymes-with-riches who don't seem to scare men off or -- more amazing to me -- the ones who are soooo coooold that ice refreezes in their presence that still manage to attract men.
roxanne -- Perhaps, you send out a "vibe" that you are interested in younger men. I certainly am not and generally walk away from them.
plainoldme wrote:the round but jolly stereotype would have fallen by now.
likable, not jolly
They may just
like those women. Most people I know look beyond the surface for people they want to spend time with. There are some others who are more superficial, but they seem to show up at alumnae-type events with their good-looking escort already well in hand.
ehBeth wrote:plainoldme wrote:I went to an alumni event last week. At 59, I wear a size 6 and have a flat stomach. I dress well; have a good hair cut and keep my hair its natural gray. I have almost no lines in my face. Bothers me more than a bit to see men elect to talk to women with messy, badly dyed hair; terrible outfits; round shapes with bulging tummies. Jeez!
Maybe there is something about those rounded ladies that is appealing to men - a sense of their own value - their innate sexuality - their humour - their interest in others, not their own appearance - any number of reasons spring to mind.
My first thought is the rounded ladies must be likable.
Bingo ! ! !
Unless you're talking about incredibly shallow people, by the time you get to middle age, most men have come to value the company more than the pageant--to value the contents more than the package.
ehbeth -- On the whole, I would say very few people look beyond the surface. Realistically, when you elect to speak to someone at an event, you are only looking at the surface. . . which is why when the surface is badly dressed or needs a shampoo, it bothers me.
setanta -- Again, look how many middle aged men like someone to grace their arms rather than someone of substance. And read those personals in which men in their 50s and 60s want women substantially younger themselves. I just don't hold with the argument about substance. If you do, then you are saying only women who look like unmade beds have it.
Think online dating is hard? Imagine if you are a Muslim. This is a real website screenshot:
@Robert Gentel,
You're kidding right? This isn't real. Really?
@Foxfyre,
That one on the top right is kind of foxy, you better believe.
@roger,
true, although bottom right has the stylin' burqa...
@Foxfyre,
Apparently it is - at least the site is for real. But the guy who found that page must have looked real hard to find that collection, cause
most of the photo pages dont look like that at all.
This is more typical..
@ehBeth,
I agree! Men who look beyond the surface are like gold.
