okokok, but we're getting ahead of ourselves here. I'm not going to flirt with someone I may or may not be interested in. Only someone I AM interested in. I haven't really gotten to that level of attraction yet in this round of meeting guys.
but, K, I'll bet it is you....but you may be feeling shy
how about just that you ARE interested in the right person, the guy who wins your affection
Hey Soz
So, with the last guy I dated, he never doubted my interest in him. Nor did I doubt him. At least on a sexual level. I did flirt, it came naturally, he could tell I was flirting.
Were it shyness, what would loosen the inhibitions?
little k
One of the most wonderfully flirty ladies I know is 80. I am always completely happy in this lady's company. She's just a really fun and alive human. Her smile and her eyes and her good heart and her zest are completely captivating. If we were closer in age, I'd have grabbed her up in a second.
ps...there is nothing explicitly sexual about her
maybe we're having semantics issues. Flirting is zest for life in a light-hearted way? Or flirting is specific to the sexual process? Or, most likely a combo of the two, but to what degree?
short term there are substances which reduce inhibition
I always have a hard time knowing if a tongue darting in my ear is flirting or not. It's very hard to read. Who's our dating expert here? I need answers!
My 2 cents is:
Anything that can be "taught" -- no.
Not being afraid to shine your light in your regular natural way hither and yon and see what happens -- sure.
I think flirting is like allowing your potential to show
Craven, that is flirting, unless the woman is concerned that you may not be hearing her very well
Without zest, there isn't a spark...not really possible. And seriousness is a wet blanket. Little things you ladies know about past that, I'll have to leave for you to discuss...I'd much rather just be effected than think about it. But I think you are right to see a combination of things going on here.
I may have missed something, but what I'm seeing of li'l k's saga here is not that she lacks for men following her around or otherwise being interested, but that she is not particularly interested in them, and is trying to figure out how to find the interesting men. And I think the "look for friends first, the rest will follow" is probably the most practical advice.
that tongue-sticking-out emoticon is so unsatisfying.
