Phoenix32890 wrote:vStrong wrote:I believe that there is no excuse for her to allow herself to have feeelings for another man while in a committed marriage that was taken with vows under God in the Christian church.
Really! So now you are second guessing her on her feelings!
I could understand your attitude she had had an affair. But she didn't, and was honest enough to tell you that she had feelings for another man.
I think that you have a lot of anger issues that you need to deal with, before you can even attempt to repair your marriage. I would suspect that if you insist on your staying on your high horse, you have lost, before you have started.
I was one of the most supportive of you on this thread, before you made that statement. Now I am not so sure. Didn't your religion teach you anything about forgiveness?
Apparently, you are very judgemental, and do not seem to take much stock in what part YOUR behavior had in the reaching of this juncture.
I think you took my statement the worng way. I am willing to forgive her. I am allowed my opinion in thinking that being emotionally attracted to another man and allowing it to potentially end your marriage is wrong.
I do not think that she wanted whats has happened, to happen. I'm not sure where you get the angry part, but I do have some anger issues and am going ot be working on those next week hopefully (counseling).
All I am is a painfully, destroyed, hurt man, who is willing to do whatever it takes to get my wife back. I understand the errors of my ways, I want to fix them, I also want, first and foremost,
her to be happy, but I would of course prefer that to be in our marriage.
VS