JPB wrote:vstrong wrote:I am a good man, whose wife is cheating on him. If I were so bad, angry, controlling, etc. would her parents, who know everthing about me after 8 years, be on my side 100%? They would be like "get rid of this f'er".
To be honest, I don't think she was cheating on you until you accused her of it. Your definition of cheating has been a sticking point throughout this discussion. You said she became quite angry when you told her that the contact she was having was cheating, in your estimation. It seemed to go downhill very quickly after that. It also seemed a very controlling statement and your request that she drop all contact with him also comes across as controlling.
If she has started cheating, and I agree that spending three hours in his apt is getting closer, then I honestly think it's because of the lines you crossed in your recent discussions.
The key word I used here is "emotionally cheating". I have never accused her of cheating. I would rather have her have sex with a random dude than have emotional feelings for someone.
Also, I have been called alot of things in my life, but controlling has never been one of them. My wife thinks I am the complete opposite. She has told me point blank that I am not a controlling person in the past and has pointed out people who are and has said "I am so glad you a re not like him."
I know whatever happens, I will end up on my feet and find another woman who will most likely make me happier and believe it is God's will that this has happened.
How many of the people in this thread have had the person you love, emotionally cheat in you, tell you they are not in love with you anymore and generally show you no emotions and feelings in a matter of 3 weeks? Cause 3 weeks ago I was making love with my wife, she was begging me not to leave for work (I very occasionally travel and went through the work of throwing me a HUGE surprise party for my 30th. Now I cant kiss her or anything. Thats all I want to do. Is show her how much I can love her, But I get it, too little too late, I guess, It just seems so odd, but I know it is the situation i now have and just trying to get it together.
Any support would be appreciate rather than name calling, etc. Especially when you know nothing about me or the hell i have been through in my life. It almost seems as if god is testing me to see how much I can go through before I break.