stuh505 wrote:Chai,
Thank you for sharing your successful tactics on avoiding contact. I apologize if my response is uncalled for, but it was really entertaining to read! I got a mental picture of you walking around measuring the distance to people with your fingertips, and a throwback to the lesson on "personal space" in gym class from like 4th grade. Being a man, this is certainly not the kind of thing I have ever had to think about. About the closest it comes is when a really big sweaty person wants to hug me, ugh...I think I just pinch my face up and let it happen.
oooooo....I noticed I made 2 mistakes in my other post...I meant to say any closer than an arms length apart I CAN'T see their whole body, so can't read their body language....2nd....I meant to say I DID NOT give the massager a hostile look, just one that met the eye and meant business.
Oh, I don't go around measuring body distances Stuh. I just know where I am, and how close I want someone else, especially a man I am not really close friends with, to get to me.
Years ago, I worked at a Nursing Home. There were plenty of elderly men who (ususally because of a declining mental state) had a habit of reaching out for a piece of ass walking by, or became transfixed by a breast of a stationary female. You just learn to dodge and weave when you're going down the hall, or how to stand a sufficient distance away so a groping hand doesn't latch on.
You make an interesting comment Stuh...saying that as a man, you never had to think about this....precisely. To you it sounds strange because chances are you've never, (or near to never) had a woman run her hands lightly down your ass while working, or had one suddenly cup your dick, give it a little squeeze, and then release. Then, on top of it all, have the woman act like nothing at all happened.
I'm sure many men would think this is their idea of some fantasy come true, but that's because it doesn't happen that much to men.....In reality, it feels exactly like what it is. Someone thinking that they can touch your body in an unwelcome way, without your permission, mostly because they think they can get away with it.
I have conflicting feelings about "touchy feely" people.
Part of me, especially if the touchy feely person is a female, feels that they must be totally dense and unobservant. Keep in mind the people I'm talking about are NOT close friends, or someone you've been looking forward to meeting, etc. I've seen plenty of people looking uncomfortable in the arms of one of these "touchie feelies", with an expression over the shoulder of this person that says "uh...WHY are they hugging me?"
Now, with men, I really don't believe in todays world they don't know not to be touching members of the oppostite sex without their permission. I believe deep down that many of them know what they're doing, but can easily enough claim "oh, I didn't mean anything by it"
That's why I've never felt I needed to make a big discussion about it with a man, because I really think they know, and they don't deserve my time getting into this whole big thing.
"Don't do that" says it all.
With woman who don't realize because they're involved in this whole love fest with the world...I've just point blank said "I don't really like hugging" If they don't understand that, it's not my job to make them understand.
Just like we teach children, remember...It's your body and you get to decide who touches it. Allowing others to do so when you don't want them to is not "being nice about it" It's putting yourself in an uncomforable position.
If they have the nerve to make me uncomfortable, I can certainly return the favor.