I am a 30 year old virgin and it feels awesome

Nice post, Osso

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dagmaraka wrote:

I admire your perseverance, suka. Everybody is giving you the wrong answer, everybody is dumb, boring and predictable, yet you are still here...

Well said, Dag...

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Off the top, for me, as usual, though I've read along, musing. But I remember strong hostility from myself in isolation.

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suka75038 wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:
Easy Get It

Here's a bunch of sites with people looking just to have some sex.

you know what's amazing is that I'm reading exactly what I thought I was going to read. 1/3 blames me and exclusively me for my failures, 1/3 tries to cheer me up with worn out lines that were already supposed to have come true long ago, if they actually worked, and 1/3 just spams. Boringly predictable.

I would like to know though if any one here actually have tried those kinds of sites and what were they like. I have been told that the male/female ration is like 95/5 and the pics I saw on the site Bella Dea posted are nothing but porn cut outs.

Yeah, like I will ever believe that Gauge lives in Plano TX waiting for me.

Suka, Those wore out tired lines are true that is why you've heard them so many times. "Be confident", "Be yourself". The problem is you just can't flip the "confidence" switch or the "be yourself" switch. You have never gone to the root of the problem. There is no quick fix.

I can see that you are smart and articulate but it is wasted or misused on extremely unattractive negativity.

Did you say hi to some girls. also talk to old ladies (I don't mean 80 or ninety yr olds) they used to be young and good looking women. They are still the same person they were then, they have the mind of a women. Get used to talking to all women?

Did you see that movie (40 year old virgin)?

Did you read that Rollins song?

Did you check into the Bukowski book "women"?

Also everybody online is going to act like they have this awesome sex life and have no problems. Don't be intimidated by it. This is about you. It would embarrassing for anybody but you haven't given up yet but stick with it.

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What'ya'mean not 80 or 90. Some keen posters here approach, however warily, 80. That is one of the key facets of this site... sort of a rubber band re our range of understanding.

I could, for example, hardly fathom that Craven and Cav and Nimh are/were as young as they are, from their periodic insights. Sozobe has always seemed to me to be Dean of Something, that kid. Good for all of us to widen the old crispy envelope.

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Hey suka, If you want some inspiration, go rent The 40 Year Old Virgin.

Seriously. I just watched it and it actually has some good things to say about being yourself, not forcing things, and the best sex being with someone you love.

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Osso, "the old crispy envelope" Laughing

I love that-- you have a way with a turn of phrase...

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snood wrote:

Hey suka, If you want some inspiration, go rent The 40 Year Old Virgin.

Seriously. I just watched it and it actually has some good things to say about being yourself, not forcing things, and the best sex being with someone you love.

You know, I was surprised to find that I really liked that movie too...and I was just thinking how much less appeal it would have had if the title character had been mean and embittered. I'm just sayin'...

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...You ah, referrin to anyone in particular, cyphercat?

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Amigo wrote:

suka75038 wrote:
Bella Dea wrote:
Easy Get It

Here's a bunch of sites with people looking just to have some sex.

you know what's amazing is that I'm reading exactly what I thought I was going to read. 1/3 blames me and exclusively me for my failures, 1/3 tries to cheer me up with worn out lines that were already supposed to have come true long ago, if they actually worked, and 1/3 just spams. Boringly predictable.

I would like to know though if any one here actually have tried those kinds of sites and what were they like. I have been told that the male/female ration is like 95/5 and the pics I saw on the site Bella Dea posted are nothing but porn cut outs.

Yeah, like I will ever believe that Gauge lives in Plano TX waiting for me.
Suka, Those wore out tired lines are true that is why you've heard them so many times. "Be confident", "Be yourself". The problem is you just can't flip the "confidence" switch or the "be yourself" switch. You have never gone to the root of the problem. There is no quick fix.

I can see that you are smart and articulate but it is wasted or misused on extremely unattractive negativity.

Did you say hi to some girls. also talk to old ladies (I don't mean 80 or ninety yr olds) they used to be young and good looking women. They are still the same person they were then, they have the mind of a women. Get used to talking to all women?

Did you see that movie (40 year old virgin)?

Did you read that Rollins song?

Did you check into the Bukowski book "women"?

Also everybody online is going to act like they have this awesome sex life and have no problems. Don't be intimidated by it. This is about you. It would embarrassing for anybody but you haven't given up yet but stick with it.

wowee amigo. awesome post.

(ahem... you can exclude me from that "everybody" statement... Hehehe :wink:)

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snood wrote:

Hey suka, If you want some inspiration, go rent The 40 Year Old Virgin.

Seriously. I just watched it and it actually has some good things to say about being yourself, not forcing things, and the best sex being with someone you love.

I've seen clips of this movie and it looks much better than the title suggests - maybe I'll rent it tonight.

The three things snood mentions are absolutely right:

1 Be yourself - that doesn't mean sharing your frustration upfront but there must be something about yourself that you like. Showcase that and put yourself somewhere you think others will appreciate it. I don't know, maybe you're good at bowling. Go to a bowling alley or join a league and see who you meet there. The women you meet in an environment which you find friendly are those who may actually want to spend time with you.

2 Don't force - see the movie "Hitch" for details. There's one bit where Will Smith's character advises the lonely would be dater to "go 90% of the way" when trying to kiss a girl then "let her move the final 10%". No one is suggesting force or manhandling a woman but you do need to be demonstrative of what you would like and await feedback.

3 Best sex with someone you love - True! True! True! Purely physical sex can be great but is still just physical, like the thrill of adrenaline sport, but the sex with someone you care about - "love" is a big word but take the point generally - has an added element of "this is the person I would most be wanting to share this moment with" and that's another dimension entirely.

I'm still confused as to why you haven't even done some "heavy petting" by now. There must have been chances in your teens or twenties which (for some reason) you missed. Think about why you missed out - what was the comment you made, the phone you never dared to pick up, whatever!

I didn't have sex until I was 23 and that seemed SO much later than my friends. It became a self-fulfilling prophesy until I met a woman who changed me - because she cared about me as well as "it".

Lesson for today - identify your good attributes and think about how you can show them off (without being arrogant) in an appropriate context.

I hope this helps.

KP

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suka75038 wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:
Easy Get It

Here's a bunch of sites with people looking just to have some sex.

you know what's amazing is that I'm reading exactly what I thought I was going to read. 1/3 blames me and exclusively me for my failures,

Well, who else is to blame?

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The 40 Year Old Virgin is a pretty good movie.

A few crass moments but funny and cute.

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Bella Dea wrote:

Well, who else is to blame?

Apparantly all us horrible women. Rolling Eyes

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Dont you know, women are evil

We all have a secret plan to keep men limp and remove any and all sexual possibilities from thier lives.

Women are the biggest problem in this world.

What is one to do about it??!

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ossobuco wrote:

What'ya'mean not 80 or 90. Some keen posters here approach, however warily, 80. That is one of the key facets of this site... sort of a rubber band re our range of understanding.

I could, for example, hardly fathom that Craven and Cav and Nimh are/were as young as they are, from their periodic insights. Sozobe has always seemed to me to be Dean of Something, that kid. Good for all of us to widen the old crispy envelope.

Yes I agree, but their almost to forgiving, understanding and nice. They could realy hold a conversation with anybody and compensate for them. Actually your right all together. I take the 80 & 90 thing back. Embarrassed

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shewolfnm wrote:

Dont you know, women are evil

We all have a secret plan to keep men limp and remove any and all sexual possibilities from thier lives.

Women are the biggest problem in this world.

What is one to do about it??!

I am glad that a woman is finally fessing up to her role in the problems of the world. If women were more seductive and alluring then men would have happier sex lives, create less war, solve the problems of global warming and make the world a happier place. Frustrated men can't do these things. Just look at George W Bush...

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Hi. My name is Dagmar and I am a woman.

Whew, I feel much better already!

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suka75038 wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:
Easy Get It

Here's a bunch of sites with people looking just to have some sex.

you know what's amazing is that I'm reading exactly what I thought I was going to read. 1/3 blames me and exclusively me for my failures, 1/3 tries to cheer me up with worn out lines that were already supposed to have come true long ago, if they actually worked, and 1/3 just spams. Boringly predictable.

I would like to know though if any one here actually have tried those kinds of sites and what were they like. I have been told that the male/female ration is like 95/5 and the pics I saw on the site Bella Dea posted are nothing but porn cut outs.

Yeah, like I will ever believe that Gauge lives in Plano TX waiting for me.

You're outlook alone tells your story suka. Before you even posted this you had already decided what the result of it was going to be. Perspective is everything in life. How you choose to see things is how they WILL appear to you. If you choose to see everything, yourself included, through negative goggles, then that is how you will live and that is how others will perceive you as well. You are the only one who can change that. You have to make the decision that there is something likeable about you or desirable about you before anyone else will believe there is...

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