Oh man, I'm bursting to say something, but first I wanted to read through the entire thread. I think this thread could really be positive.
I absolutely loved this, Soz, because it is so 'typical' an experience, especially in the West, and I couldn't have said it better myself:
sozobe wrote:
Well, as I said before, default mode for most kids is assuming they're heterosexual. That's what they see everywhere around them, in books, in movies -- heterosexual couples. Little girls dream about getting married, going to the ball with the prince, that kind of thing. If that little girl grows up and thinks both "gosh, Katrina is so beautiful" and gets a little warm and fuzzy inside, she can just put that under the category of "friendship"; if she thinks "gosh, Kurt is so handsome", she goes ahead and assumes she has a crush on him.
So the default mode is heterosexuality.
For people who are in fact homosexual, they may realize sooner or later that it's not just that the person is beautiful or handsome, but that he or she has sexual feelings towards that person.
Then the process of dealing with it begins. Deny it? Act on it?
For a lot of people, the process begins with denial, and stops when it simply can't be denied any more.
So far, I really like the Kinsey scale, because it at least acknowledges that people are not either straight or gay!, but we are actually a continuum of expressions and sexual orientations.
I am one of those people who falls between a 3-4, who 'goes either way', or call me a bisexual if you want. lol. I could tell many a-story, like so many other people out there, and I am open to sharing anything that may help to spread some knowledge about.
The culture we grow up in tells us to choose: gay or straight (but of course we'd rather prefer if you are straight). Such tight little boxes that can cause so much pain.
I am interested in seeing more numbers and studies, so thanks. J.B. , Soz, and others, i look forward to seeing more posts like that. I do believe there is a genetic factor involved, but am not set .
Regardless of why or how someone is gay(or any variation beyond straight); the important thing in my eyes is that EVERYONE is given the space to be who they are. Really, that is what it is all about.