Nick29 wrote:Afterall she is the only one whom I can say will be ready to live with me for the rest of my life. May be there is someone else also, but who cares for that UNKNOWN, while I know someone.
What about you, what about the other way around? Can she honestly trust that you will be ready to live with her for the rest of her life?
The "why would I care, when I know someone" bit meanwhile sounds, if you'll excuse me for my rudeness, more like laziness than love ...
Dont necessarily feel bad, I was in a relationship for three years (way back), for one, that was ... fine ... ok .. not too much trouble ... comfortable enough ... why would I look on?, is what I thought too, probably. But although I cared for her a lot, I didnt love her, and certainly wouldnt have been satisfied spending the rest of my life with her, and those things eventually do come to light (I found a lover, and only later split up). Looking back, I know that I robbed her of three years of her life. The less it would have been, the better it would have been.
Nick29 wrote:"nimh" you truly brought out some good points but the thing is I was very happy for the first 3 months of our marriage that we spent together. So happy that I told to myslef I,m not going to fall for anyone else and then once i departed, my wierd mind took me to wrong places.
Three months? That is an awfully short time to base any life decisions on ... how long did you know each other before you got married? (And on a related theme, how much does she know about the life you had before her?)
Nick29 wrote:Not any more..if it wakes up I will amke sure to wake up the Night Owl of my WIFE too from now on. If I want to be happy I got to amke sure I spend all my life flip and flop sides with her and only HER.
Well, if she is that kind of person and goes for the same kind of things, then you'll surely be in luck. What do you think? What would you do if you'd found out she wasn't?
Nick29 wrote:I'm right now thining to GUIDE her to improve her self esteem. Reduce her weight. I will teach her all the ropes in BED as she is complete novice to it. I will expose all my intrests to her so that she exactly knows what truly makes me happy. At the same time as she doesnt tell what exactly her intrests are becuase she tend to accept everything taht comes her way. I will study her and find out all that she likes. Will amke her to lead a more self esteeme life and lead a life of her intrests and eventually our intrests. All these qualities would evoke a lot of intrest in me to be with her for lifetime. Love for that matter I guess clicks that way..
That sounds beautiful ...
But beware ... trying to teach her, improve her, guide her, shape her and heal her is a mission well avoided for one and the same person ... to be lover, father, teacher and husband at the same time is one hell of a tricky load for the best of men, and not necessarily healthy for either one involved.