Why do I need so badly to put it in somebody?

Er - Kicky - no chance of at least finding a f-buddy where you both actually really enjoy each other's company?

I have had a couple of those relationships - where we were friends, first and foremost - but sometimes our eyes just started glowing - and wham! Then back to friends again until next time.

Is it a guy thing to be ok with not liking someone you have sex with - even to the point of actively DISliking them? I HATE the feeling of waking up with somebody and discovering I just want them not to be there. So - the couple of times I have felt that way the next day - byeeee......And it has only happened to me once the reverse way - it was awful!!!

And - it isn't only we woman who find ourselves falling harder in what we have seen as a casual relationship - guys do it too - I know this!

Why not go on some net dating sites, Kicky, have you had bad experiences?

Never hoid of it. Or maybe I have...is that the one where the kid is in college and he tries to meet his dream girl and it has these little monologue voiceovers where he talks about his thoughts on women?

In any case, no, I didn't take the idea from that movie.

dlowan wrote:

Er - Kicky - no chance of at least finding a f-buddy where you both actually really enjoy each other's company?

I have had a couple of those relationships - where we were friends, first and foremost - but sometimes our eyes just started glowing - and wham! Then back to friends again until next time.

kickycan wrote:

That has NEVER happened to me. I guess that would be pretty nice if it happened--how do you do that?

I have no idea - it just happens! Lol!

The two times it worked out really well, I had known these guys for quite a while - usually hanging in groups with them - and it was clear on both sides that lerve was NOT in the air - just friend stuff.

Both times, the first time it happened we happened to be alone for a long time - having a really great chat - and suddenly........very cute and funny!!! Relationship stayed the same as ever - but, every so often - quite unpredictably - wow! But we didn't ever plan stuff - it was just an if we both happened to be single - or in non-exclusive relationships - and if the mood took us. Never affected the easy friendship.

dlowan wrote:

Is it a guy thing to be ok with not liking someone you have sex with - even to the point of actively DISliking them? I HATE the feeling of waking up with somebody and discovering I just want them not to be there. So - the couple of times I have felt that way the next day - byeeee......And it has only happened to me once the reverse way - it was awful!!!

kickycan wrote:

Yes, I think it is a guy thing. Women don't seem to have this aching need to just plain boink somebody like men do. Or at least if they do, they either can't act on it because they feel like sluts if they do, or they truly are more in control than we are. Either way, actually disliking someone you sleep with seems to be a guy thing.

Hmmm - we DO sometimes just want to boink!!! But - in my experience - not with someone I dislike - I mean I do not exclude someone I fight with a lot, (that can be ...ahem...nice), and I do not have to think they are great people - but I hafta have respect for them - like their wit and humour, or their intellect - something - I cannot find them boring, or despicable, or stupid.......

dlowan wrote:

And - it isn't only we woman who find ourselves falling harder in what we have seen as a casual relationship - guys do it too - I know this!

Yup. I've done it myself.

dlowan wrote:

Why not go on some net dating sites, Kicky, have you had bad experiences?

It's been awhile since I went on a dating site. It wasn't so bad, but it is like a chore sometimes. You have to go through all these profiles for hours trying to find someone who looks and seems like they are on your wavelength, and that you might find attractive, plus there is a lot of reading between the lines that must be done in order to try to figure out what this stranger is all about.

But I think that is probably the easiest and best solution for me. I just have been so busy trying to plan my trip to Italy and trying to learn to speak italian...I just have felt like I don't have the time to devote to that right now. And I keep thinking that if I get lucky I can actually meet somebody out in the real world! I'll probably end up doing that though, eventually.

I use to have a sex buddy, but he was kind of a pain in the ass too.

6 months is chump change for me Kicky. It's was 7 years for me on Feb 15th.

I really ned to get a life!

Well hell, I guess better late than never. I'm finally catching up after 11 pages..lol.

Kicky...34.......Married and haven't haved any nookie in over 3 months....HELL YEAH....THERES a Horny Women typing this!!

The freakin' delivery men were lookin' good today at work!!! LOL

montana - that's great news! I'm guessing t's not the EX ex..... but a more friendly one......?