littlek wrote:I think kicky's observation (he made elsewhere or at anopther time here) about my vibe was interesting. It's got me thinking. I go into this flurry of analysis, periodically, about why I'm single. And I have a coupla email pals who help me (eye roll) - (grin) think things over. So, the vibe thing was more fodder for the chat mill.
Let's see if I can give you more fodder.
My comment came partially from what you've said in other threads, and partially because you've said that you've been single for a very long time. But I have to admit, it probably also partially came from my own thoughts about my situation.
I think that there are payoffs in being single that you, like me, don't necessarily think about, and although we may
say outwardly that we want a boyfriend/girlfriend, that just might be us fooling ourselves. Obviously we've both been single for a long time. There must be something about it we like.
But I'm always questioning my motivations for just about everything, so that might just be me.
My other theory, simple as it may be, is that we're just set in our ways, and new loves are just too much of a disruption of the way of life that we have now grown accustomed to. We think we're trying to find love, but really we sabotage every chance we have because it is uncomfortable to change. And the longer you go along in a certain lifestyle, the harder it is to change it, and the more painful it is when something comes along and disturbs the rhythm of the life we have created for ourselves.
Any of that make any sense to you?
