Back in the singles' club again

Since this is the third time this has happened to us, I have no choice but to walk. I am exhausted of being understanding, tolerant, being a mom to him and explain and explain how relationships work. That after 8 years, he will not have that powerful feeling as one has few months or a year into a relationship, that this is 'it', this is the right thing, forever and ever amen. My mother, a family therapist, who is frighteningly always right - not just as every mom, but as a professional, in all of my relationships so far, says I can leave myself an option to let him come back - if he comes with a ring, it's up to me. I can't think clearly right now and although I am very tempted to give him this window, I don't know if I should. Of course, I can always tell him no when he does decide to come back, but I know I would have a hard time trusting him that he won't have a change of heart again. And I know him, better than he knows himself sometimes, so I know he will need a few months, he will look around and try to date, then he might get terribly lonely and try to come back. although perhaps not, as i told him repeatedly that this time it is final no matter what. He respects such decisions, he might not try even if he's desperate. But that's for the best I suspect, we can't keep trying forever.

That about sums it up. I don't have a question anyone could help with, really. I think I am sensible enough to get through this and even get something out of it (since I usually find solace in work my dissertation may see an unexpected boost). Just need to talk not to let that big gaping hole in my chest swallow all of me. OK, going running and then to work. Thanks for listening,
Dagmar.

kicky, that's actually the last thing i miss. after eight years it's not always terribly exciting. plus the brazillian journalist intermezzo, well, nemmind. won't go there. what i do miss is the level of comfort we had with each other, but there is absolutely no chance of any comfort this weekend. i just want to establish some sort of a new relationship between us, no matter how naive it sounds. a precedent, if you will.

like a giveaway at a garage sale.