@hawkeye10,
It is kind of spooky. I'm not usually able to do that with people.
I guess, in a way, I live with her presence every day. I see a lot of her in Mo. Maybe that accounts for some of it.
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:Thanks again, everyone, for holding my hand through Phase I.
have a great day out with the family!
I was thinking last night that a new chapter is starting for all of you.
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
Uh oh. That doesn't sound good.
Honestly, there are things I would have liked to see done differently -- the Facebook thing, in particular -- but I'm going to let her call the shots and she thinks this would be best for her.
If you have concerns I'd love to hear them. I've always trusted you advice and experience. You've pointed me in the right direction more times than I can count and I'm sincerely grateful for that.
No, no......it was just an exclamation! This is so big!
And thank you.
@boomerang,
http://themoth.org/posts/episodes/1006
listening to a segment of The Moth
Quote:A young woman meets her brother for the first time at their father's funeral
(it starts about 20 minutes in)
really made me think about Mo and the twins and, well, made me think about Mo
direct link
http://themoth.org/posts/stories/child-of-trouble
This is really weird....
Yesterday after we got back from rafting I was talking to my neighbor (not the psychiatrist neighbor) who has a daughter just a few months older than Mo.
On Saturday she met with her daughter's birthmother -- at the same time I was meeting with Mo's!
It was really uncanny how similar the nerves, the conversations, the "feeling like we knew each other all this time", the everything was. It was almost like we were following some kind of script. Both kids had a hard time saying what they expected from this and they both backpedaled a bit after being told contact had been made.
Freaky!
@ehBeth,
That was wonderful! Thanks so much for the link. What a sad and sweet story.
I have a feeling I'll be spending some time going through that site and listening to those talks.
@OmSigDAVID,
OmSigDAVID wrote:
Where is Rod Serling ?
David, he's been buried, I'm hoping he was actually dead when he was interned at Forest Lawn or some other burial site.
No one is talking about Twilight Zone, we are trying to help Boomer with her awkward situation. This isn't a Game thread, it's about a 14 year old boy getting prepared to meet his BioMom. It's a delicate situation. Please proceed delicately.
@glitterbag,
OmSigDAVID wrote:
Where is Rod Serling ?
glitterbag wrote:
David, he's been buried, I'm hoping he was actually dead
when he was interned at Forest Lawn or some other burial site.
No one is talking about Twilight Zone, we are trying to help Boomer
with her awkward situation. This isn't a Game thread, it's about a 14 year old boy
getting prepared to meet his BioMom. It's a delicate situation. Please proceed delicately.
I guess u don t get the point.
I thought he was 13.
@OmSigDAVID,
I dont get it either, but I do know that Boomer is perfectly able to speak for herself if she finds posters destroying her enjoyment of threads.
http://able2know.org/topic/251902-11#post-5743949
@hawkeye10,
I 'm not getting into any fight. I 'm just recognizing
the weirdness whereof she told us.
@OmSigDAVID,
I was flashing back to spring 1985, me reading Jung's work "Synchronicity"
I dont claim to understand it, but I am not shocked by Boomers testimony either, I have experienced that sort of thing too many times.
@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:
I was flashing back to spring 1985, me reading Jung's work "Synchronicity"
I dont claim to understand it, but I am not shocked by Boomers testimony either.
I have experienced that sort of thing too many times.
So have I.
So have my friends; mindblowing.
I got the Twilight Zone reference. It did feel Twilight Zonish for next door neighbors to be experiencing the same out of the ordinary thing on the same day at the same time.
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
I got the Twilight Zone reference.
It did feel Twilight Zonish for next door neighbors to be experiencing
the same out of the ordinary thing on the same day at the same time.
Surely,
YES! I
like when that happens. Its a special moment.
Someone once said that "life is a series of special moments
strung together by boredom."
David
I just have a minute but thought I'd sneak in with a happy update...
OM contacted me yesterday asking if everything was okay. She was worried that maybe we'd freaked Mo out or something since she hadn't heard from him. I explained that everything was fine but he seemed kind of stuck, not knowing what to say. I suggested she send him a friend request, with a note or without -- that was up to her, that maybe if she took the first step it would be easier for him.
When he got home I told him that we'd spoken and that she was going to contact him and whatever he decided to do from there was up to him but he could talk to me about it if he wanted to.
A while later he comes upstairs to talk.
She sent him the loveliest note; a chatty note, a let me tell you a bit about myself note, a perfect note. Nothing gushy, or saccharine, or maudlin. He wanted my advice on how to reply.
And off they went!
When he got up this morning he said "You were right! She's really neat!" and gave me a big hug.
Apparently they chatted a while over the course of the evening.
Of course I'm dying to know what they said but I'm resisting my snoopy impulses. I need to let this evolve on their terms.
I have to admit that it feels bittersweet and scary from this end though. My good friend and constant sounding-board "S" talked some sense into me today by saying "Part of raising them up is letting them go".
So, you know, here we are.
@boomerang,
She was a nice girl - she's a nice woman now.
You've got an amazing son because of her.
I hope this can be a nice, healthy friendship for all of you.
OF is an adventure for another time.
@boomerang,
I can just imagine how you feel, but I'm figuring that this sanity will continue because of who you and mr. B and Mo and OM are as people.
(((hugs)))
@boomerang,
Quote:OM contacted me yesterday asking if everything was okay. She was worried that maybe we'd freaked Mo out or something since she hadn't heard from him
I cant overemphasize how cool it is that she did that, that her head was working that way.
@boomerang,
Any new updates? What has been happening since Mo's initial contact with OM?
