it does no good to confront them
It does no good to confront them. They'll tell you what they think you want to hear at first. after a while, it becomes "YOU"!
Then after a while longer, they don't even bother to hide it anymore.
My husband is a good man and hard worker. I ask myself, why can't I let him have this one thing. Why does it eat at me so badly?
For a while I'm ok , then I'm not. You start to believe the fact , that you're the one who's crazy! They say it's fantasy. I say it's still cheating. if i went out and found a man and came home told him i fulfilled my fantasy , where would that get me? I think we all know the answer to that. My point is, He would be furious.
He comes home goes to the garage, ( he refuses to have his computer in the house, because he has no privacy) . gets on his computer, til shower time, takes a shower, goes back to the garage, til dinner, comes in eats, goes back to the garage until he comes in to go to bed. Most of the time the kids and I don't even know he has gone to bed.
He is oblivious as to what goes on in this house, with me or my kids.
The kids know what he is doing. I hate that the most. My daughter woke up one night to the sounds coming from the garage, she had fallen asleep on the couch. she's 18 now. She confronted him. He told her she was lying. or dreaming.We all know the truth.
I have to wonder tho, what would they think if they knew we were all chatting here about this problem. Not that I plan to tell him you see,but, I can guarantee you, it'd at least make them angry or hurt. He even ahs a file cabinet in the garage that is locked, that even I'm not allowed to have the key too.
I could go on and on. it seems i already have. just so much to say and way too many thoughts on this subject.