Brome.. how/why/when did you decide it isnt a big deal? Did you start out being truly upset about it like me? or just something you were always able to look away from ?
When I was in college I thought porn was just awful; I had an extreme feminist view. But on the other hand, I had seen plenty at my boyfriend's place (his roommate was a collector). I was also into film and had watched plenty of non-porn films that had a lot of hmm, 'mature content'. I took semi-seriously the thought of stripping (my boyfriend's suggestion) so I didn't have to be dependent on my family. So plenty of contradictions there, typical for a young person, perhaps.
My view softened as I got older. Before we were married, my first husband hid a copy of Playboy's college girls issue at my place. I was pissed, mostly because he had lied about owning a copy. He was a puritanical, hypocritical creep. Can't believe I married him. I made a collage out of the issue and gave it to him.
I always knew about my current husband's interests, which are typical, mainstream (Playboy online). We're open about it and it doesn't bother me.
I think I'm more comfortable with my own sexuality now, and that has made all the difference. I enjoy reading erotica, and sometimes very artsy 'porn' (Playboy is mostly blah). I don't feel threatened by the girls in the pictures, even though most of them have bigger boobs than me. :wink:
Of course, if he spent all his time and money on it, I'd be pissed.