@trying2learn,
Hello, ttl.
I yammered at you, and I don't take it back as I still agree with myself, but I'm sorry if I hurt you with my opinion.
A lot of us in the world, including us online, have worlds of incredible grief. Spirals of grief. I posted to try to get you to move on, still caring about your sister, but not swamped by grief. I hope you get there.