Would you appreciate the candor of a nice woman saying "don't waste your money on flowers and dinner, just give it to me in cash. Then, give it to me."
If I was a guy, I think I'd wonder why she wasn't offering to pay if she wanted me to give it to her.
Candor? I think that's just a sign of a mercenary way of thinking. Not a human worth spending time with.
Good Point #1
(thomas is GP#2, I'll address that next post)
It's not so much she Wanted to give it to him, but that she was all right with giving it to him. Meaning she wasn't UNattracted to him, actually not even neutral, but on the "I'd do him" side. But you really don't care for some of who he is, not disliked, just didn't care for what he does with his time, and you wouldn't want to spend time doing what he likes, with him.
It happens that a man meets a woman (or sturgis, another man, a woman another woman) and while they both think the other is pleasant, realize quickly this isn't some long term relationship material, but they sure would like to boff.
There has definitely at least 2 men I've had fine sex with, and would do it again if I could go back in time, but I just as definitely should have left the relationship part out of it. I wouldn't again be deluded that I couldn't be a quality person, and have my physical enjoyment not be such a indicator of who I am as an all around chai.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a mercenary aspect to our personalities.
I believe we all have mercenary qualities. Each and every person.
Question is, why is it all right to sell something we own and cherish on ebay, but not to ask for fee for services performed?
One may collect antique teacups, and cherish each one, but don't mind selling them to someone, so you can let them have it too, while you get money.
What's the difference with giving someone sex, when they were going to get it anyway, but save them time, but not the money they were going to put out?
Is a woman nicer because she'd give it away for free?
Why isn't someone who has mercenary thoughts worth spending time with? Since we all do have those thoughts, and in one way or another act on them, maybe no should spend any time with anyone else.