If he had sex with you when you were not in a state to give consent that is likely rape.
In the United States, the definition of rape may vary from state to state, but it is most often defined as:
1. Forced sexual intercourse
2. Sexual intercourse against the victim's will and without his or her consent
3. Sexual intercourse if the victim is mentally or physically incapacitated
(This includes drunk or drugged)
4. Sexual intercourse if the victim is under the age of consent
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/13935-rape/#ixzz19toDTcAm
I don't know about the law in the US...but it would certainly not be a case that would be likely to get anywhere here....partly because it would be very hard to establish if you gave consent or not. Here, if a man believes you gave consent that is a defence, even if the belief is not particularly reasonable
It's possible he himself was in a similar state, though being capable of either putting on a condom or lying about one suggests he had some awareness of what was going on.
I think people here are being extraordinarily harsh.
Erm...coming onto someone does not give them carte blanche to have sex with you
Yes, it's a damn fine idea not to get yourself into these situations and I hope you take a lot of wisdom away from this...but leaving the shop door unlocked doesn't make it ok for someone to come in and make off with the inventory.
If you were unconscious it would MOST CERTAINLY HAVE BEEN RAPE.
It's NOT a good thing this happened.
It sounds like neither you nor anyone else will ever know exactly what took place, ie whether you gave consent or not.....but it's left you feeling shitty and that's bad.
The good is if you care for yourself better in future, but I am very sorry that the lesson for you has been harsh.
Yeah, it's dumb to get so drunk, but you're no orphan in doing that, and decent people, especially friends, take care of folk who have become ridiculously drunk. Had I been a friend of yours, I would have done my best to get you the hell home safely if I had realised how drunk you were.
Be careful about thinking you were drugged and blaming it on that. Such things can certainly happen, and you need to take precautions, but most blood testing of people who think there were drugged to get them to have sex find only copious amounts of alcohol.
I don't really know how you are going to get peace of mind...what would give you that?
I am glad you are having a medical examination.