So, please tell me how you would deal with a situation in which you see someone you like and respect posting something which is offensive to the ideas you hold dear.
If I haven't already posted on the thread, I stay shtum and pretend I never dropped by. I don't think there is anything to gain.
Related/unrelated? I think it could be related.
driving home around New Years, I was listening to the CBC. They were doing a little feature on the best advice people ever got. I was quite taken by the story someone told about their dad telling them that a really good life rule was to assume that other people mean well. To try and figure out what positive thing they might have been trying to do or say.
I've been trying to apply this in my real life as well as here. I'm not always successful, but it's definitely made my relax about a lot of things.
Tone. There are ways to disagree politely, with courtesy and grace. With style. Barking/biting/snapping works in the dog park. You've definitely got the writing abilities to disagree with opinions in a smooth way, without appearing to attack the poster personally. Why you don't want to apply your writing skills (one of the things I've always liked best about you - and why I keep buying you journals to encourage you to WRITE) is an enormous mystery to me.
A thousand years ago in university, I was a dangerously stressed young woman. I was sent to a student counsellor after the original prescription to drink a glass of wine each day didn't help calm me down.
We talked. He told me to ask myself a series of questions each time I got wound up. 1. is my reaction doing me any good? 2. is my reaction doing anyone else any good? 3. if not, why am I doing it? The answer 99/100 times is "no good reason". He told me he wouldn't bother booking me for a second appointment since I clearly understood what he was saying. I didn't need to go back - and I still run those questions through my head at least a half-dozen times a week.
so - would commenting on things no one knows you've seen (and that you're feeling heated about at the time) do you any good? would it benefit anyone else? if the answers to both are honestly yes, I'd recommend posting about your views on the topic - without addressing a particular poster, and without jabbing your virtual finger into anyone's virtual face. It wouldn't give you a good adrenaline rush, but it might help with that 'honour' concern.