Oh, I'm a little upset! VENTING RANT warning

Okay, so what do you think of this?

When my husband and I separated, I had the house appraised by three real estate agents and then the bank had it appraised because I was going to be paid out for half the equity and then taken off the mortgage.

All four came in at around the same price, so we both agreed on an amount. He had to remortgage and asked that I take half up front in cash, and be allowed to pay the remainder in annual installments over ten years.

I agreed, and we got a notarized agreement to that effect. And a big point is, there is no interest accruing on this money - he just pays me a certain amount every year for ten years. January is his payment month.

He was also supposed to keep me on his pension and life insurance as beneficiary until I was paid out. That didn't get put into the agreement and he has since conveniently forgotten about it and taken me off those. I have no guarantee I'll be paid out if he dies.

In addition, he got most of the contents of the house because I didn't have a permanent home for quite some time. Anyway, not arguing about that...

So, I get this email from him today whining about his lack of funds (he's a university professor and makes very decent money), his mortgage rate is going up, his house isn't worth what it was when we made the agreement (it's valued at about 60%), he's broke from extensive renovations last year, and his investments didn't fare well. He wants to pay me less now, over a longer period of time.

I don't like it, but I say "OK", but I want interest on the deferred annual amount each year, plus proof that I am in his will to be paid out after his mortgage is paid. He's really ticked that I want interest. He says that his house isn't worth what it was, so everything's up for renegotiation!

I said No way to that - his bank isn't reducing the amount he owes, so why should I? Then he tells me I'm greedy and unlikeable.

Basically, he wants me to subsidize his financial decisions and take a hit. He could have sold the house for mucho dinero at the time and bought something more affordable and paid me off in full, but he decided to stay there and live like a king. Not my decision. He renovated last year on credit and made bad investments. Not my decision. So, now he's in a financial pickle and he expects me to help him out. I am willing, to a certain degree.

Anyway, his last comment (about being unlikeable) just got my goat.

Thanks for letting me vent.