@shewolfnm,
shewolfnm wrote:
OmSigDAVID wrote:
U got lucky.
Some children are horrors n terrors, burning down the place.
Not luck.
I will absolutely stick my neck out here to be cut, and be cut deep,
but those children, unless they have a real mental disorder,
are only behaving as they are taught to behave.
Over reactive, nervous, chasing perfection parents raise nervous,
uncomfortable, explosive people.
Parenting has taught me that ,, the little things? really are little things.
To me my listo f little things are huge. Most of my little things, other parents would freak out about.
Screaming in a grocery store for example. I dont care. I will not punish her for it, I will not freak out about it,
and i will not storm her out of the place just because of embarassment. Kids are kids. They scream. So WHAT.
Now, take that and say.. screaming in a movie? Well there.. that is a rule and that is just rude.
She will be removed, but I will not be angry with her. She is a child.
And her reactions are extreme because she is still experiencing life
for the first time. And sometimes, with a small body no one listens to you ..
so you make a big voice . It just makes sense to me.
I am a much more relaxed parent then... well.. i dont KNOW another parent like me and sometimes it feels very alienating.
But then I look at my daughter and I know.. I dont have a 'terror'. And all of a sudden, I am reassured beyond measure.
I have read of serial murderers who have said that in their
early youth, thay had a hobby of killing small animals;
e.g., one who snuck into a chicken farmer 's place
and killed many chickens, on many nights. He did not say that anyone
taught him to do that; he decided it by himself (among other things).
There was one kid on TV, who coud not and did not restrain his extreme
destructiveness, until after huge numbers of medical doctors had
examined him, eventually one of them diagnosed a mineral deficiency
whose satisfaction calmed him down, but until then, for about 7 years,
he was a horror and a terror of his family 's lives. He was a lunatic.
He tried to burn down his school. Thay feared for their lives and property.
I have never met any kid like that, nor any person who was like that, as a kid,
but we know that thay have existed. Thay 've said so themselves.
U had enuf luck that u did not have to put up with that.
I am glad that I did not roll the dice.
Since I was 11,
MY rule on taking chances has been:
don 't risk more than u r willing to lose.
David
