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My boyfriend: porn addiction or pedophile?

 
 
Reply Wed 14 Sep, 2016 11:44 pm
I went on my boyfriends computer after one day seeing a small picture icon of a naked girl when I glanced over at his computer. When I did, I found hundreds of pictures of young girls saved, bookmarked sites specifically teen and petite teens, daddy daughter porn. I found out he s a member of a teen cam girl site. I also found out he has a secret instgram account where he posts pictures of girls and sends himself pictures of what look like 14-16 year old girls in bikinis and next to nothing. I then went snooping into his stuff and found a collection of USB sticks and they were all full, no joke a f***ing million pictures and videos of young naked girls and teen porn. Half of it I would say is of age girls pretending to look young and half of it is actually high school aged girls. My boyfriend is in his 40s and I am younger than him but I didn t think he would ever be turned on by some of these pictures. I tried to talk to him about our sex life (which has never really been great) in hopes of understanding him better without having to tell him i violated his privacy. However, after telling him that I myself am a very sexual person and have needs and desires and that I watch porn. He then told me he has a low sex drive. I asked him if he masterbates a lot and he said no . A couple days later I caught him looking at these sites at 7am while he thought I was sleeping. Is that normal? I'm I losing my mind here? I know I have to talk to him about why he feels he has to lie about having an active sex drive to his partner but I'm just looking for some opinions on all of this, the extent of porn the ages of girls, the lack of effort in our sex life - well nothing compared to the attention he's given to this collection. I'm just heartbroken, any help is appreciated!
 
CoastalRat
 
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Reply Thu 15 Sep, 2016 06:24 am
@hsmith5757,
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My boyfriend: porn addiction or pedophile?
It depends. If the images on his computer are of actual underage girls and not just women made up to look underage, then by definition he is a pedophile. (Personally, even if the girls are of age and are simply made up to look underage, I think your bf is a sick bastard, but that is a personal opinion some others may not share.) If it is apparent that the girls are actually underage, then it would be my hope that you would contact the police and turn the sob in. But I would suggest you be pretty sure that is the case.
I will assume a porn addiction and will only say that if his behavior is not something you wish to put up with, then you need to talk to him about it. And if he does not change, then you will have to decide if you can stay with someone who seems addicted to porn. Only you can make that call.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 10:42 am
What more evidence do you need to know that he will NOT change his preference addiction and that - as you get older - he will pay less and less attention to you?

Sicko and probably close to getting arrested.
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bobsal u1553115
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 12:48 pm
Neither behavior has even little chance for improvement. In fact they both only progressively get worse until authorities get involved.

Do not walk away from him: RUN!
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Eliusa
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 02:59 pm
@hsmith5757,
Please save lives. Contact police.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 03:10 pm
@hsmith5757,
BAIL!
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Eliusa
 
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Reply Sat 17 Sep, 2016 04:02 pm
@CoastalRat,
Are you still alive? What happened?
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zerodark420
 
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Reply Sun 18 Sep, 2016 03:12 am
@hsmith5757,
He's not breaking the law. And a pedophile would have pictures of actual under-aged girls. Not actresses who are paid to look under-aged. I like watching anal because it looks hot. In reality I don't have anal sex. I just like watching it. Does he have a porn addiction? Yes. Is he breaking the law or at risk of breaking the law? No. He needs some counseling but he can't be forced. He's going to have to do it on his own. Just like any other addiction.
bobsal u1553115
 
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Reply Sun 18 Sep, 2016 05:05 am
@zerodark420,
In the US using a 100ye old actress and representing her as younger than 18 years old is child porn and illegal.
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