Online dating, flirting and dating burn-out.

Let me get this right. Your ex must have gone to the basement, saw the things that you had boxed for her and then added a load of other stuff of hers from the time the two of you were together (effectively telling you she was junking everything during the period you two were together)? Yowza!

If it was me, I'd be thinking "it's not MY stuff and if she didn't want it then she should have dumped it in the trash. No she went one step further, she added to it, to make a point - to hurt you. I'd be pissed. So the first thing that would pop into my head would be to pack up those two boxes and leave them (noteless and messageless) at her place, taking the basement key so she can't bring them back. Of course this will annoy the crap out of her and she will want to get you back. This could lead to tit-for-tat.
Perhaps the best thing really is to keep the note where she stated nothing of hers was there and if she ever comes back to you to whine about wanting something out of the stuff she left, this is written proof that you no longer have anything of hers. I'd also throw out all that stuff.

i would just walk away. leave the damn boxes in the basement, you're leaving for budapest soon anyway. it might be easier to deal with them later, if ever. just leave them there until you have to move. when you do, put them on a curb...
that's what i'd do anyway. don't play her game. although she is admittedly miserable, this ain't no way to deal with that. you're not teenagers anymore.
sorry, i said it at least thrice... i'll butt out...promise.

I would also be pissed. I agree with the 'trash the stuff' posters. I think Dag's idea of curbing it is a good one. Put it out to see if anyone wants to keep any of it, trash the rest.

OK, so I almost followed all your advice ... really, I did <nods>. What made me back off wasnt just the typical last-minute rush out (taxi to the ATM to the guy I had to return the keys to then back to the station, **** the mailbox oh never bloody mind). It was also this SMS I got.

See, I got a new cellphone# and email address two weeks ago after our final, definite spat (got the worst email Ive ever got - and thats saying some, which spurred me to cut all those ties and make myself unreachable altogether). But being back in Holland, it was just a lot cheaper to momentarily plug my old simcard back in to call my friends and folks and so on. So it was wholly by chance (A didnt know I was in Holland) that I got this SMS from her on Tuesday morning:

"You are precious, amazing and valuable. I hope you're on the other side somewhere. For now, I am alone, because you aren't here. Love, me (i don't need acknowledgement anymore, so it's better if you don't respond to this. <s>)"

<nods>

As requested, I didnt respond. But on the other thing, having to make a snap decision, I decided to leave the key in its envelope in the mailbox after all, like I hadnt seen it. I want her to have access to any of her stuff if she ever needs any of it back/again, without having to jump through hoops (contacting me in Hungary through someone else, etc) for it. Perhaps she'll need/want it <nods>

Sorry to ignore all yers advice...

no you didn't really. you didn't load all the stuff in a cab and hurl it on her front steps. that's what i was worried about... i think what you did is fine and wise. and considerate and caring.

Ya done good, nimh.

why would someone burn out anymore from online dating than somethign like being a player in college or something. its a pretty simple process meet then talk. where exactly is it harder? is it cause its harder to get to know someone if you can't observe their real time emotoinal/physical reaction like facial features etc? is that what the problem is? you never said.

I never said it was harder than in person.

I did . . . online dating put tens of thousands of miles on my jeep . . . now she's all wored out . . .

I had to replace Egbert with Algernon.

Careful, bossman...... that word wored is awfully similar to whored.

Are you casting aspersions upon the honor of my vehicle ? ! ? ! ?

Isn't it fuel injected??

Damn . . . i forgot to pick up some fuel injector cleaner . . .

I'm going to throw a link here - may make a new thread for it later. I am too tired to read it in full now. About atoms and lerve and such....

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/technology/4144782.stm

I went out last night with a girl that's beyond hot...I mean retarded hot. Pretty cool noticing everybody checking her out walking down the street.

Just dropped her off an hour ago.

retarded hot? are you making a comparison between extremely dumb and extremely hot people?

Uhhhh....no, not at all.

"A" for effort though.

then explain the definition of retarded hot. and where it came from. really slow hot? that doesn't make any sense...

If one could make sense of slang on the face of it, it wouldn't function as intended.