Online dating, flirting and dating burn-out.

Bill - nope, not making any more gatehrings for a while. Thought I do like what I've seen of Austin. I probable won't have much time off until xmas.

Next year, maybe

maybe

Give marycat a big ol hug if she does get there..miss her terribly!

Now that my daughter's wedding and my law suit are both over, I am going to try some online dating again. There's no fool like an old fool, is there?

My brother ended up with a lovely wife though I've heard of some horror stories too :sad:

So now, I keep hearing about these horror stories, but no one ever gives me an example. So maybe someone would be so kind........

http://news.google.com/news?hl=en&edition=us&q=internet+romance

Thanks Bill. Interesting.

velcome, it is disturbing - internet is the tool of the con, makes their job easy

internet romance dangers

i know that i think internet relationships (romantic or otherwise) are potentially very dangerous. i simply assume that everyone i meet on-line lives in prison - and proceed under that assumption until i get some other evidence. that approach has served me pretty well so far.

I don't agree with all of this , and someone who's in the early stages of an internet romance might find this offensive, but I can see a lot of truths in it.

You can "prove" sex is just as dangerous by querying Google for "sex+ predator". I'd say more about the way the internet is perceived as more dangerous than, say, phones or the 'brick and mortar' world but it's lockup now and I need to go to my cell.

But seriously folks, the "danger" of the internet is highly overrated and has a lot more to do with ignorance of technology.

There's a lot more to it than the technology, Craven.

Rich, handsome, and eligible. Want to meet? Eligible for parole 3/7/2007.

I looked at the links, ehBeth. Yeah, I agree there are a few different levels of "danger." There is the out-and-out cons, would-be rapists, that sort of thing, but there are also the people who present one side of themselves online and are different in person. I think the kind of people who would get too caught up in that would have problems IRL too, but I do agree that it has its own set of dangers.

Sure there is, there are the dangers that are inherent to life. The technology is used as a scapegoat. As a medium the internet is more dangerous than other mediums only in few areas.

You can find horror stories about any medium. Just as you find stories about people not turning out to be what they portrayed themselves to be online you will find horror stories of people getting married only to find that years later "I don't even know you".

The danger is human, the technology is just a medium. The same rules of the brick and mortar world apply: Don't be stupid, and even if you aren't bad things might happen. Such is life.

Predators prowl bars, laudromats and other brick and mortar spots just as they do the net. And they use other mediums as well.

The ignorance of technology is one big reason the internet is perceived as 'scary' or 'dangerous'.

Strangers can be dangerous no matter how you meet them. The very things that make people think the internet is dangerous are also things that can be used to your advantage.

The anonymity of the net is often cited as a reason for facilitated deception. But it can be used as a means of protection.

Anywho, I'm off to meet a really nice axe murderer who I met online. Where else would I be able to meet such wonderful gals?

Tee hee.

Craven, here's what I had in mind:

My friend met this great guy on the net. They talked everyday, they just really clicked, they fell in love. They arranged to meet. Things were pretty clickable physically, too, and she was really happy, got really emotionally invested.

Well, he turned out to be considerably more prickly IRL than online. I'm not talking about anything approaching assault or anything like that -- just plain ol' not nice to be with. They had all this history, though (lived an ocean apart but had been "together" online for something like 6 months) and she figured he was going through a hard time, blahbedy blah, ended up wasting I think a total of a year on an emotionally draining experience.

Of course that could have happened IRL, too, but there are specific aspects of it that are peculiar to online dating. She probably would have realized his IRL prickliness after just a few dates, and not gone into all the rest of it.

Have fun with your axe-murderer. Perhaps she'll have a fetching black leather outfit?

And I am watching an artist I know and like who met a guy that seems just right for her, to me. (My business partner says she thinks he is creepy, but then she wasn't an irish catholic like I was). I like both of them. I heard all her fears in the beginning (he didn't have a job, but had a great background) and months of how wonderful everything is, and now I am watching as he quit his new job...and

so on.

there is a lot of risk in real life too.

Myself, I tried the Chronicle on line dating, but everybody lives a hundred miles or more away. Fuggedaboudit.

The psychology of an online relationship can be quite different than an IRL one. I'm sure someone who is an active professional in this field could write a comprehensive and clear summary of this. In fact, I'm quite sure it's already been done.

You go on with your ax murderer. I'm sure I wish you all the very best.