"Watching a movie" at his place late at night, after lots of beers.
Seriously not trying to be a bitch. Just wondered what you thought was going to happen at that point there?
That he would open his heart and tell you he had all these feelings for you too, and was just waiting for now to tell you?
And - if he had - would that have made it any better? Not very romantic, or easy to trust a man full of beer heartbreak and horny.
To be there, and to be getting close to him at this time? After all of this? And with him out of that relationship not that long ago?
He could have said it: Slept with you, then fled the scene. He didn't. At least he was honest about that.
I know you had your heart set on him. I re-read that thread in General. EhBeth was right on. Right on the money.
If you need to cry, and let it out, and whatever that's cool. You do it.
But don't let this be another thing to use as a reason/excuse to sit back and wait. And wait. And hope.
Use it for fuel to know: I, Montana, am a gorgeous woman with a lot to offer. There is nothing wrong with me just because a hot man doesn't come knocking down my door begging to be with me. Healthy men don't do that anyways. They want real signals (not just flirting) and active participation. And if they aren't interested, doesn't mean there is a thing wrong with you! **** happens. We don't always get the guy we want.
There is nothing wrong with a man either for flirting with me and wanting to have sex with me - it doesn't make him a jerk - if I am allowing it to happen and feeding fantasies in my mind but not making it clear with my actions what I want.
Men aren't mind readers. I'd say Frenchy is a jerk IF he had treated you disrespectfully or meanly or differently as soon as you turned down his offer for sex. (even though I think it would be human of him to get a little annoyed that you went up there and showed interested to sex then bombed him with big feelings talk).
Ok, I'm officially taking over as bitch then.
But it needs to be said!
You are wasting some of the best time of your life - single when you don't want to be!
And why??? Cause you see something, want it, hope for it, and then let your feelings get out of hand without stepping up to confirm it or not in reality: move on it, or move on.
You yourself have said "I avoid things that may hurt me". Yeah. Join the club.
But that can't rule what you do or don't do, or else you'll be a world of hurt for no reason...and this is no reason.
This isn't the end of anything but the running you were doing in your head.
Wanted this; didn't get it. No relationship ruined or ending here.
Blessing. This is good. So why did it take you all this time to find this out? One date, or ask for a date, and you would have known. And it wouldn't hurt like this. Not at all.
You've gone through more **** with this crush with frenchy than I have in some of my relationships..and gotten sadder when it 'ended' too. lol. So does that mean I have not the depth of your feelings? Hardly.