I'm a Stalker!

I know lzzie, I'm only kinda joking. I'm just putting myself out there, waiting to see him so I can go and say "hey" ;-)

After I left my job, I was hiding from him because I knew it would hurt if I saw him. I was all ga ga over this guy and I wanted him something aweful. I also avoided him because everyone thinks he's an ass.
Then there's the fact that I can hardly understand him, but I can work with that.

Then when I was told he was no longer with his girlfriend, I hid because I guess I'm just afraid of getting hurt.

Now I say "screw the fear and go get him".

Hey hun - don't matter what other like about him. What do YOU like about him...?

You can go say hey - and see if he says hey back - then take it from there..... don't be worried what others think!

I think I'm crazy about him and he's crazy about me, but we are both scared **** of eachother, meaning we're nervous around eachother.
It's just like when I was back in high school with the butterflies, sweaty palms and all that sappy stuff.

He knows I have trouble understanding him and we both know that could be a problem, which I think most of his fear stems from.

I'm not at all afraid of what others think of him and that would never get in my way. Yeah, he's arrogant, but not with me. He knows better

It's going on 10 years since I've been in a relationship and I really want him, but don't know how to go about it. We're both scared to death.

Montana, it seems you know where he lives, so why don't you drop
him a nice card and ask him if he would like to get a cup of coffee
with you, put your phone number on it and wait.

Getting a cup of coffee together is non-binding and if he calls,
you know he is interested. Should he not call, then don't waste your
breath, at least you know then.

If you do go out for coffee, it will be up to him to make the next move,
and he probably will, once you get on a more personal level.

Risk nothing, risk it all.

Give it a go.

Hey and Hey...... take it from there

That's a good idea Jane, but there's a problem. I know what street he lives on and know it's one of 2 good size apartmenrt buildings, but that's all I know.
We got our new phone books yesterday and he's not in there. He was in the book last time, but he's no where to be found in this one.

I suppose I'll just wait until I see him again and I'll try to find the guts to say "hey, how's it goin?".

I'm really torn in what to do. My heart tells me to go for it, but my head screams "stay away from him".
He can't seem to stay in any relationship very long and that sends up all kinds of red flags for me.

I'm starting a new job next week, so I'm secretly hoping I meet someone else, or at least get myself busy enough to where I can get him out of my system.

I don't know what I want <sigh>!

Sometimes I just wanna go for it, but then my head steps in and over rides the heart.

I've made some huge mistakes in the past where men are concerned because I let my heart do the driving. I ignored all the red flags and the warnings my head was screaming out, just so my heart could have what it wanted and I paid a huge price for that.

Last night I was ready to ask him out for that cup of coffee, but today I'm back at my head screaming "he'll hurt you"!

Oh well, the ice cream I had last night was really good. The winter is finally over and I can get outside and work in my gardens :-D

Long winters tend to drive me insane and make me want to do things that I know better not too.

Spring fever!

Maybe I'm simple, but I think you just need a good romp. This guy you find extremely sexy - but ay, he really doesn't sound like good relationship material.

If you start stalking his apartment, we might have to get concerned. lol.

Again, maybe I'm simple but I think you should have a spring fling with someone who is NOT frenchy...too many strings involved with frenchy and your heart is too attached.

Embrace sex in a short term relationship...with someone fun, single, and honest.

Now you are going to say you don't do casual sex..but it ain't casual...I'm just talking about dating sex without any hopes or expectations of it going for years and years.

Nothing wrong with that.

No worries. I won't be stalking anyone anytime in my lifetime. I'm just joking about that. I simply threw myself out there where I could be seen, and if he happened to walk by, I'd do the "hey", how's it goin" thing.

I truly wish I could do the sex for fun thing, but the desire just isn't there for me to do that, which makes of a very frustrated Montana!

I swear I'm my own worst enemy. I fall for men who are all wrong for me and I can't seem to stop it.

I know Frenchy is all wrong for me, but I would like to meet someone who is right for me. Granted, I am frustrated as hell, sexually, but it's the companionship that I long for the most. Just someone to share my life with would be nice.

I'm sure it'll happen some day.

so, I assume I'm outta the loop.

No way Dys, you would be at the top of my list, but I never ever go after another womans man ;-)

<smooch>

It'll happen!

Just saying...you are wasting time with french boy.

Time to meet some sexy thing that gets your heart aflutter too, and would HONOR you.

Mr. French doesn't really come across as an honorable fellow. Hell, what do I know, I don't know him. He just seems like the stereotypical charming, sexy Frenchman.

Daddy always said stay away from charming frenchmen...(dad was french, and quite charming! lol )

Forgetting for a moment that your other thread exists, as of today (not last year) why is Frenchy all wrong for you?

Daddy was a very smart man. I got to know Frenchy when I worked with him and he's, what I would consider, a very selfish man. Out for himself and screw everyone else.

I've seen him in action and I need to keep reminding myself of these things. I've also been warned by everyone who knows him, so I'd be a fool to go there.

Been out of outside work for over a year now, so not being out there hasn't given me any chances to meet someone else, but spring is here, new job is here and this is all good.

I'll be working in the city and that's where all the single men reside :-D

The boonies are nice and quiet, but a little too quiet sometimes ;-)

Montana, I normally don't do this sort of thing, but if Frenchy is being uncooperative, and you are as horny as you sound, well, I guess I could make a road trip.

But... no attachments!

I have to feel the wind blowing through my air. Comprende?

JPB, he has lots of issues that I have issues with.

#1. No car, meaning he would expect me to drive him everywhere. He gets rides to work from others, but has never offered anyone any $ for gas. One guy drove an extra half hour a day just to give him a ride and Frenchy never even offered to cover his gas.

#2. Rumour had it at work that he was drinking on the job and was caught a few times. My son worked there before I did and he told me he smelled booze on his breath once. This is a huge red flag for me because my last 2 men were alcoholics and I don't want another one.

#3. He's only been living here for 4 years and has gone through at least 4 women that I know of and I wonder why.

#4. He's a major kiss ass to the higher ups at work and that always turned me right off.

#5. He was living with his girlfriend when I was working with him, yet he was going out of his way to get my attention.

#6. When we worked together, he ignored me in front of other people, but it was a whole different ballgame when we were alone. Major turn off there!

#7. When I found out he had a girlfriend, I instantly stopped paying attention to him. I was hurt and felt that he led me on, and instead of doing the right thing by leaving me alone, he did everything he could to get back my attention, which only hurt me more.

#8. He is known as the company rat, which is also a total turn off. He would rat people out for things he was doing himself.

All these are huge red flags and I'm thinking it would be in my best interest to pay attention to them.

Hey, haven't congratulated ya yet on the new job!

Congrats!!!

Oh my..you are going to have a fun spring. Know what you mean about the boonies.

I'll be waiting for ya Gus. Hurry up, ok :-D

Thanks girl :-D