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ME MYSELF I - The pros & cons of the solo life

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Wilso
 
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Reply Sat 13 Sep, 2003 08:01 am
After the nightmare with the last one, she can go as slow as she wants.
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Eva
 
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Reply Sat 13 Sep, 2003 11:27 am
I hear you, Wilso! Wink
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:37 pm
A question: What do you solo A2Kers do at Christmas? Especially if you have no family or an *estranged* one? I dread it. Rolling Eyes Always keenly feel my solo status at this time, despite having Christmas dinner with friends. What about you?
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:48 pm
Aw, MsOlga! I know it's not a warm fuzzy companion, exactly, but we do have A2K! I sometimes feel very bummed around christmas, but sometimes I don't. I want someone special to buy pressies for. I want someone to sit on the couch with christmas morning. Ah well.
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roger
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:51 pm
One thing I do not do is have Christmas or Thanksgiving with sympathetic friends who can't stand the thought of someone being alone for the holidays. It's really a chance to get caught up on household maintenance and things like that.
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:55 pm
littlek

Yes, yes, I know what you're talking about! Normally it doesn't worry me too much (being solo) but at Christmas, with all that pressure to have a wonderful time with loved ones ... Well, it makes me a little sad, at my newish single status. <sigh>
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:55 pm
Roger - You don't "do" the holidays at all?

I should say that I do have my family. I am very grateful for that. Course they're all married, well, all except for my brother and it still isn't legal for him to marry.
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 02:57 pm
With friends, yes. But it does feel very different, minus an ex of 20 years or so. I proceed with great caution!
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:01 pm
Caution is fine. When, if you don't mind me asking, did you become single?
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:01 pm
roger wrote:
One thing I do not do is have Christmas or Thanksgiving with sympathetic friends who can't stand the thought of someone being alone for the holidays. It's really a chance to get caught up on household maintenance and things like that.


So life just goes on, Roger? Do you feel OK about that?
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roger
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:05 pm
May I quote you, Msolga?

"with all that pressure to have a wonderful time with loved ones"

I'm not especially responsive to pressure. If they want to feel all warm and fuzzy for the holidays, let them donate some old clothes or something to the Salvation Army.

I'm not as grumpy as it sounds, but I'm not an emotional charity case and never did enjoy being displayed. Now, if we're talking very close friends, it might make a difference. I probably just went off and read the question my own way. I do that sometimes.
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:05 pm
I lived far from family for about 10 years. Most of the time I traveled back home for christmas. There were years where I was single and away from home - not very fun, even while surrounded by other people in my situation.
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:07 pm
There's also pressure from the media and advertising campaigns.....
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:14 pm
littlek wrote:
Caution is fine. When, if you don't mind me asking, did you become single?


Ah, littlek! Rolling Eyes
It has been a long, drawn out process, over 5 years! Shocked On & off, on & off ... Extremely draining, I can tell you. The trouble is, it's never quite finished! The last time I saw him he declared that he wasn't able to form a proper relationship with someone else because he still loved me & always would! Shocked I've figured (after dividing up the assets, etc, etc) that it might just be better for me to steer clear! Confused
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:15 pm
http://groups.msn.com/_Secure/0UADXArEZV0Ib6ir*J7EocU6sXFLEfjHYkgN3CyAWq6CMSKETjl87U4YHF*nRlGShnTAn7GOtfFy0mIwQR1bXsvMNW5I1nBVoHoJAmiThffjlrntWAINXEXSC1BkAcNQZ/lazyafternoonlessBIG.jpg?dc=4675449109914601507

This is the image on my desktop. I love it. I think it might have made me sad as a recent-single, but now it just gives me a sense of summertime bliss.
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:16 pm
MsOlga, that sounds very confusing!
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:20 pm
Roger

I didn't think you were being grumpy at all.
And I (obviously) have problems with the pressure to be happy, happy, happy at Christmas myself. I HATE that!
And I agree, only with good friends. Noone wants to feel that they've been invited to a gathering because people feel sorry for you.
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:22 pm
littlek

I love it! (your desktop image) Very Happy
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msolga
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:26 pm
littlek wrote:
MsOlga, that sounds very confusing!


Yep, sure is! The male midlife crisis is a VERY strange thing! Shocked
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littlek
 
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Reply Fri 28 Nov, 2003 03:28 pm
Some men are confusing not only in the middle of a midlife crises. He made his bed, he should sleep in it, I guess.
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