Yup, dlowan, better a crowd than the dreaded claustrophobic couple thing!
Trouble is, formerly close households falling apart can be just as upsetting as a *relationship* self destructing, yes?
I don't think the tendrils are woven quite as deeply, nor do they touch our most deep neediness, as happens in a "relationship".
I have certainly weathered household endings more philosophically than the other sort!
Speaking of "the other sort" of relationship .... I wonder if one can become a wee bit phobic about entering into that (potentially devastating) situation again? I remember a Loudin Wainright (sp?) in which he extolls the virtues of being lonely after such a tangled relationship: "loneliness is happiness .."
I suspect I would be extremely wary of future "romantic" entanglements after last one. It takes SO much effort to get one's self back into one functioning bit after experiencing something like that!
Indeed - I know of what you speak - I be way gun-shy!
Indeed - I know of what you speak - I be way gun-shy!
msolga wrote:Who needs the angst of a *relationship* when you are able to live such a harmonious life with your housemates?
Unfortunately they are all men and as a straight man...
I've never lived in a mixed-sex house, apart from with a girlfriend for a year. And that was a nightmare as she was more slobbish than me.
If I had an offer from the right woman I'd be co-habiting in a flash!
Does anyone think it strange for 4 straight men to share a house? Some colleagues have given me strange looks when I've told them.
The main thing I miss about living with any human is the cleanliness. I'm much better about keeping things clean when I live with someone else - and so far, men I've lived with have been MUCH cleaner than other women. And I seem to always live with quite tall men, when I live with men - which means I never needed to get out the stepladder to get at the vanilla sugar.
Which reminds me. I'd better load up the dishwasher. The faeries are on strike again.
I thunk you was gonna spend the day doin' housework, and bein' generally Suzy Homemaker?
I'll prolly wanna jump right in the shower when i get there--want me to leave a trail of clothing to the bathroom door?
Dishwasher emptied, and re-loaded and running. Counters wiped down. Small sacks of garbage carried out.
Trying to figure out where all the kidlets will sleep tonight.
I think I may need to buy a few more pillows.
buy, buy a few more pillows
I do often forget to eat and/or eat not as well as I should....after this long alone the whole cook yourself a good meal has worn thin...and I dont think its the cleaning up but the effort for myself, Im just not that interested for it.
Those lovely snacks that become a meal generally get me through.
Just had a fine, solitary luncheon of droopy brie and blackberry preserves on Stoned Wheat Thins - with a mug of chai. I don't believe I could convince anyone else that was a meal if I served it to them.
Ah the days of yore, once upon a time when men were men till they got wed and suddenly they were new men. All their little joys were undone. When
the pub was home from home, sell by dates on food were purely a point of negotiation. That nice ripe Stilton matured nicely in the back of the fridge.
Your collection of car magazines was safe behind the sofa. Now that raunchy 2 seater has become a 6 seater SUV. Those ancient, comfy jeans, heavy metal t-shirts & bikers leather jacket & 5 days stubble have all been sanitized, replaced by all the sensible things decreed by HER and you have been transformed from into Mr. Nest-Builder. Sheeze don't it make your brain ache, never mind your legs.
SHE WHO MUST BE OBEYED ! ! !
[size=7]<< hmmmmm, is he finally catching on? >>[/size]
Setanta. Oh you are more than right. purgatory incarnate
oldandknew wrote: Those ancient, comfy jeans, heavy metal t-shirts & bikers leather jacket & 5 days stubble have all been sanitized, replaced by all the sensible things
...BY HIM and you have been transformed from into MS. Nest-Builder....
THATs what Im doing wrong
however the leather jacket stays in the back of the closet for a few more years, I dont care who doesnt like it..as for the rest of the list...I shall not be changed
who says its sensible
its all wrong I tell ya
Is THAT what I have been doing wrong? Am I supposed to CHANGE you smeggers?
