ME MYSELF I - The pros & cons of the solo life

dlowan

I'll discuss this with Flatty once he recovers from his heat-induced coma. Hey, is it hot or what?

It is HOT!!!!!

Miranda, my skinny, impossibly elegant little one, is loving the heat - she is outside on the balcony, watching the passing parade happily. If I completely close the door, she will, however, call to be let in. So - the door remains open, a tad, letting my expensive coolth into the day...


Msolga - Susan was two and a half years older than I.

Although I enjoy freedom, my idea of it is very different to most people's. To me, I really think that in this erratic, dog-eat-dog world, everyone needs someone to whom they can hold on.

I'm a very contemplative person; when alone, I often feel chained to my thoughts and hopes. For me, there's no such thing as 'me-time' without someone else to talk to, to listen to, to love and be loved by. When with someone, my relationships always seem to last long- my shortest lasted a few months, my longest four years. I value love more than survival, and having love is my having freedom.

MsOlga go to Sydney! Flatty will be fine for a night (especially if you don't let him outside!).

Go to Sydney!!!!!

Go to Sydney!!!!!

MsOlga - on the Qantas website - $220 return, up Thursday morning, back Friday morning!

Ah, dlowan, what a huge loss. I am so sorry. I can see why your thoughts turn to her at Christmas. <sigh>

Hello littlek, soz, osso, margo & Deb,

What a lovely idea! Christmas with margo & Possum with lots of bubbly! Thanks for your interest & encouragement!
BUT, seriously, I could only make a decision to leave home at the very last minute at this stage. If you've been following Flatty's progress in the Cat Room thread you'll know what a challenge he's been. (The cat will be the death of me, as I keep saying!) Yesterday he got his (post abscess removal op.) stitches removed & I've got my fingers crossed that I can have a few weeks of Flatty wellness to enjoy. Between now & Christmas ANYTHING could happen! I kid you not! So right now I wouldn't even comtemplate having the freedom to go interstate for even one day. He's truly a very dependant one woman cat!

dròm_et_rêve

Hello! I don't think I've met you before at A2K.
I read your thoughtful post with interest & can relate to much of what you have said. Like you, I miss the intimacy & support of a solid, long term relationship, but feel nowhere ready the begin another! I also sorely miss the absence of my closest friend, whose been working overseas for 2 years. But hey, this period of becoming a solo person again has been so valuable in other ways: for starters, learning that I have strengths I never knew I had. I've learned to do things I never thought were possible. So there are some pluses, too. I hope that you, also, are discovering those pluses! The trick is not to THINK too much, yes?

MsOlga, keep that cat inside until after xmas, it's less than a month away! Of course, I know how it is with a cat like that.

Er .... littlek, he would go crazy, locked inside! As a result of his wild, feralish youth. He is NOT good in captivity too long at all, sadly. Nearly drives the vet crazy, poor Flatty! When I came to collect him after one of his stays at the vet I always HEAR him before getting to see him.

Maybe he'd get used to it after a few days....?

Oh, littlek, sorry to be difficult in the face of all your good suggestions ... At his last place he wrecked the Venetian blinds & curtains while locked inside for one day ... I think he just panics in captivity. He doesn't wander much these days when outside, he just likes the OPTION of being out there.

oh my!

Yeah!

I guess you can't take him with you either. And he wouldn't be happy at a kennel. Boy, good thing he's cute.

Yeah, littlek, my very expensive problem boy!
Actually he's not that cute at the moment, with his back shaved! (for the abscess removal op.) Lucky I like him! And he seems to have formed a very big attachment to me. He still trusts me after all the vet visits, poor thing!

My little buddy just went back in to the vet and has a little shave job of his own.