married and started affair with an old flame....

Well this is no fairy land and the divorce statistics tell us that it won't be
until death do us part.

The method preferred by social scientists in determining the divorce rate is to calculate how many people who have ever married subsequently divorced. Counted that way, the rate has never exceeded about 41 percent, researchers say. Although sharply rising rates in the 1970's led some to project that the number would keep increasing, the rate has instead begun to inch downward.

Marriage and Divorce

(Data are for U.S. for year indicated)

Number of marriages: 2,230,000

Marriage rate: 7.5 per 1,000 total population

Divorce rate: 3.6 per 1,000 population (46 reporting States and D.C.)

Source: Births, Marriages, Divorces, and Deaths: Provisional Data for 2005, table A

That was in 1995. The article I linked to was 10 years later.

And 43% is still not a majority -- which is the only claim I've made.

And when you control for factors like college degrees (I'd wager that most of us who are active on this online discussion board and are of age have a college degree), that's down to 17%.

That's just not cause for the kind of fatalism I see from you -- though my question was honest, not a set-up. I'm not sure what you ARE saying here, exactly:

CalamityJane wrote:

Well this is no fairy land and the divorce statistics tell us that it won't be
until death do us part.

Divorce statistics seem to tell us that currently married people have somewhere between a 57% and an 83% chance of staying together until death do them part.

Well this is no fairy land and the divorce statistics tell us that it won't be until death do us part. Most people marry because they fell in love with their spouse and are committed to the marriage and offspring. Due to whatever circumstances, they can fall out of love, have incompatibility problems and so on. No one said, you have to stay
married and be miserable.

CalamityJane wrote:

Well this is no fairy land and the divorce statistics tell us that it won't be until death do us part. Most people marry because they fell in love with their spouse and are committed to the marriage and offspring. Due to whatever circumstances, they can fall out of love, have incompatibility problems and so on. No one said, you have to stay
married and be miserable.

The divorce statistics don't tell us that we MUST divorce. Most people marry because they choose to fall in love. Please make no mistake about that! If they fall out of love - that is also a choice! Therefore - divorce is a choice. And you are correct - that no one said you have to stay married and be miserable. You can stay married and be happy (by choice)!

Those who buy into the; "People fall out of love all the time - just get a divorce..." concept is the very reason why the divorce rate is where it is!

Okay, I said in my statement "Most people marry because they fell in love...." You are saying "most people marry because they choose to fall in love". If your statement was true, we could choose whomever we want to and fall in love. Well, that's not true. We fall in love with someone for the stupidest reasons - choice does not come to mind at all. You can fight it, yes, but why?

Divorce is a choice, yes, I agree with you.

I disagree!

Man #1 is physically attractive to you, well kept, educated, respectful, respected and is considerate to all.

baddog1 wrote:

Man #1 is physically attractive to you, well kept, educated, respectful, respected and is considerate to all.

and gay.

How would it work then?


Seems to me this is cheating to achieve your argumentation...

I'd never move to a small town with only 3 men

You manipulate situations in order to have answers that fit your argumentation.

But if one changes the data, you achieve nothing, because you were cheating..

I did already!

How about if the first guy is gay?