Sad things make me return

As to my last post - hadn't seen seed's post just above mine. Don't engage her either. Can you go away? Spend the night elsewhere?

she's not here right now. she went to wal0mart "to get things" what she really did was she went to wal-mart to talk on the phone to him and tell him how much she loves him. to tell him how she cant wait for him to raise her child.

i swear oh my god i swear....

Seed. Go away. Leave the house.

Seed, I know what you're going through. I've been there. You should not confront either of them now. You're too upset. Go somewhere. Get out of that house until she's gone.

You don't know what she is telling him. I don't think it matters.

What if there was someone before you that she did the same thing to? What if there was a guy before you that due to you, went through the same thing? Would you have listened to him, or her? We never do. We meet someone, hear stories of their previous relationship and it's always one sided and then down the road we realize there may have been something more to the story than what we originally heard. This guy will have to learn that on his own.

He knows she is married. Right? He knows she is pregnant. Right? He hasn't let that influence his behavior, and nothing you say to him will either because he isn't the gentleman that you are.

Gawd, I wish I had the words to help you understand that we all go through some version of this scenario at some point in life if we allow ourselves to love. As hard as it is in the moment, there's so much ahead of you that is promising. I have no doubt you'll get through this. It's a sidestep, not a derailment.

You're a great guy and you've been through a lot more in the last few years than most guys endure in decades. Keep your head straight, and keep talking here as much as you like. We're here for ya.

went for a walk, ended up at a friends house talked about it. blew off some steam. feel better but still pissed off

good.....

Oops. That was hard for you, seed. And very close to making a mistake you'll most surely regret later, whatever will happen.

You're just making one of those experiences others have been through - and it's really good, the ladies gave you excellent advice!

Oh Seed,


I am so sorry.



Don't know what to say, except, one day you will be looking at this through the lens of a number of years, and a new life and love.


Just think how the older, wiser, more compassionate and disengaged Seed would like to see you behave.


This really, REALLY sucks, but one day you will be able to look back on it and see how it contributed to you being the wonderful future Seed.



Meanwhile, I wish we could be there and care for you.


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Good on you, Seed.

I wish I had had your sense and self restraint at 23! You are a good one and I'm holding high hopes that some sunshine breaks through soon.

I'm glad you took the high road, Seed.

its the only road i know

You're a good man, Seed!

Are you doing better today?

Wondering how our friend Seed is going.....


Be great to hear from you, Seed.

ditto

life was fine. i was doing ok with everything. i felt as if i was doing ok with her leaving. i talked to a few people (professionals) and things seemed to be ok. I talked to a lawyer, and started things out. I felt as if my life wasg etting better. But i guess I was just fooling myself. i broke down last night. i heard a song, "What hurts the most" by Rascel Flatts" and it just described every feeling I had in my body and I lost it. I i miss her, i love her and i want her back. it's crazy. even i know it's crazy, but it's the truth. I miss her so much, sitting in this empty house, trying to find things to keep me busy every day is something that seems to be eatting away at me. i go to work but that doesnt seem to be enough. I dont know what is going on with me.

I go see someone monday to try and help me sort these things out.

Your heart is broken, that's what's going on with you. You had dreams and hopes that have been crushed into dust. You miss and love who you thought she was, not who she turned out to be. Find a way to realize this and hopefully soon, learn to accept it. You were deceived.

We've all been there, Seed. As shitty as you feel, know that you won't feel this way forever. You're not alone.

Try and find a book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love." You can order it online at Amazon.com. Reading it will help you to realize that nothing that you're feeling is wrong. It will help you to heal.

Good luck. You'll be okay. Trust us.

I remember being 23 and being madly in love only to have my heart shattered. Fast forward another 23 years and here I am looking back feeling very glad that it didn't work out because I met other men, fell in love a few more times, learned a lot about myself and finally found the real love of life. Although I know if something happens to him there still might be another person in the world I could love as much. I promise you Seed, this is only a low point in a long life of peaks and valleys. It's not just the end of something, it's also the beginning.

Well, good on you for getting some support...but if you think THAT'S crazy, you don't know from crazy!!!


THAT'S grieving....




And it sure hurts like hell and sucketh mightily.


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