:-D Still catching up ...
Oh, I agree with that, Acquiunk. I got in a huge fight in a Woman's Studies class because I thought the statement "All heterosexual sex is rape" was a bunch of, well, bull hooey. I really really dislike the victim mentality and think it is counterproductive.
I'm all over that! Sozobe and Sofia are SHARP!
I have to think Ms. Dworkin (or whoever originated the quote) has never initiated
a rousing and loving celebration of life! Like the folks who insist "men just want sex",
you get what you give, receive what you offer, and share whatever you initiate.
Being a victim is nothing but an attitude and nobody deserves to be that helpless.
Slappy Doo Hoo wrote:
... Personally, I would never spend that much money
on a woman who wasn't sleeping with me! That's not being a gentleman,
that's being a sucker supplicating the woman for nothing. ...
This assumes the evening is a tool for getting sex or marriage. In
that case, I would be a sucker! :-D Big time! But mostly, I was
interested to get to know these women, and see what kinds of things
we could share. No agenda. No specific job to interview them for.
I can't change other people to fit my dreams, and pushing
people into some role just makes any relationship go sour.
My only interest is to see who a person is, however they are.
AFTERwards, if they turn out to be gf/wife material then whatever.
Also, if someone shows interest in me too, then I'll reveal myself,
but most folks are not that responsible. If I'm not actually welcome
then I prefer to stay invisible.
But everyone has their own way. During our date at the sex clubs,
I wondered "Are people going to think I'm a wussy man, catering
to and being used by these women?" It could easily look like that
because the physical actions are identical. I had to face that ridicule,
and decide whether to cave in to the "wuss" factor, or have a nice
evening on my terms regardless.
It's sad that many people might call me a wuss and never think
another thought beyond the label. I'm glad to go along with it if
it'll help them cling to their foundation, or just feel better.
Whatever! Their trip is only going to trip them up.
Mostly, I have to break out in a huge smile and laugh about the
whole thing! When common questions come up in such a different
situation, it's really ironic. It's just odd!
I kinda think most people wouldn't have spent the money.
That's part of why I did.