nervous and excited....
Hi,CL; Even though you know you are are overanalyzing things,and trying to protect yourself from any future disapointment,you absolutely must stop distancing yourself from feelings and possibilities with your fella !
If you have been hurt in your past,that was another person and another time ! Be as totally into this guy as he is into you ! You don't want to be the one to ruin a relationship that could be the one real love of your life !!
Trusting each other is the key. I wouldn't worry about not being hugged yet. He may be waiting for just the right time and situation. Pleeeez don't sweat the details,girl !!!
Bless you both,
lindatw
Re: nervous and excited....
lindatw wrote:Hi,CL; Even though you know you are are overanalyzing things,and trying to protect yourself from any future disapointment,you absolutely must stop distancing yourself from feelings and possibilities with your fella !
If you have been hurt in your past,that was another person and another time ! Be as totally into this guy as he is into you ! You don't want to be the one to ruin a relationship that could be the one real love of your life !!
Trusting each other is the key. I wouldn't worry about not being hugged yet. He may be waiting for just the right time and situation. Pleeeez don't sweat the details,girl !!!
Bless you both,
lindatw
I always over analyze.. no matter what the situation, be it work, friends, a persons room.. a person themself... anything that can possibly be analyzed
But I just don't think I am used to guys being respectful... and not trying to move too fast... am enjoying the slow pace.. like I said before the anticipation drives me wild... but I am trying to adjust to it also...
But I don't know if I should still see other people or just stick to seeing one.... cuz we aren't in a relationship and I don't know if he is seeing other people... ya know!! and I am not about to ask...
nervous and excited...
C.L.; If i were you,I'd stick to him.I feellike if he were seeing anybody else,he wouldn't put this much time into your relationship with him.
{Yes,even this new,it's still a relatonship,and just as important as it will be
when you've been together forever} Your seeing other men might hurt him and scare him away.
Relax and enjoy the feelings,
lindatw
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lindatw wrote:C.L.; If i were you,I'd stick to him.I feellike if he were seeing anybody else,he wouldn't put this much time into your relationship with him.
{Yes,even this new,it's still a relatonship,and just as important as it will be
when you've been together forever} Your seeing other men might hurt him and scare him away.
Relax and enjoy the feelings,
lindatw
wow that is kinda wierd, I took your advice before I read it, lol... thanks linda :-)
nervous and excited.....
Hi,C.L.; Glad to hear it
You and your guy have a glorious relationship.
Build on it ! It just gets better every day. What an awsome blessing you've been given to have this guy in your life
Enjoy !!!
lindatw
Re: nervous and excited.....
lindatw wrote:Hi,C.L.; Glad to hear it
You and your guy have a glorious relationship.
Build on it ! It just gets better every day. What an awsome blessing you've been given to have this guy in your life
Enjoy !!!
lindatw
Well I don't think we have gotten as far as having any kind of relationship... but maybe someday in the future.. I am still not getting my hopes up too much... but thank you still very much
Is is all still going OK?
Gotten a hug yet?
Chai Tea wrote:Is is all still going OK?
Gotten a hug yet?
No, no hug, flirting, but no hug.. I saw him today, he is going to call me after he gets out of work :-)
we are going to NH on saturday... should be fun... looking forward to it..
We went to a movie last week, that was good also... talked alot, still getting to know each other, but everything he has told me just makes me want him more... **sigh**
That is how it should be !!!
Enjoy,
lindatw
Crazielady420 wrote:
we are going to NH on saturday... should be fun... looking forward to it..
We went to a movie last week, that was good also... talked alot, still getting to know each other, but everything he has told me just makes me want him more... **sigh**
Is it peak leaf-peeping season yet? That's always a good thing to do on a date. Hugs will come in their own good time.
J_B wrote:Crazielady420 wrote:
we are going to NH on saturday... should be fun... looking forward to it..
We went to a movie last week, that was good also... talked alot, still getting to know each other, but everything he has told me just makes me want him more... **sigh**
Is it peak leaf-peeping season yet? That's always a good thing to do on a date. Hugs will come in their own good time.
Yea it will be a pretty drive up there... and his two friends are coming with (they are a couple).. I have met them before, they are really nice...
Ah.... I haven't felt this happy in a long time though...
Aw, delighted to hear you're happy!
I think I didn't hold hands with Fuzzband until our third date. I still recall how thrilled I was the first time we held hands! And I was 32 at the time.
I got my hug, and a kiss :-).... and another date on top of the one coming up.... and I am going over today to watch a movie.... and the other date is his friends wedding!!
Ahhhh
Ok... I don't really know what to think now.... now I scared the sh*t out of myself... I don't let myself get attached to another person in any way shape or form... even my last boyfriend of 2 years I wasn't attached to... but now there is something different about this one guy... and it scares me... and I am thinking about running and not looking back, but a part of me doesn't want to run... and I always run... Ut Oh..
C.L. : Hooray !!! Your relationship {yes,it is too a relationship}is going so well !! This is not the time to live up to the name "crazy" by running away,hurting this guy, and destroying his happiness and yours,too. Really and truly it sounds as though you have serious,major issues with committment,fear of abandonment,and fear of closeness to anyone. If this is the case, have you thought of talking to a counselor about it ?
I've known people like that,and they ended up alone and unhappy in their lives,because they threw away perfectly good relationships because of needless fear.
It won't hurt to use your habit of "over-analyzing" to do a little self-analysis to see why you fear emotional connections.
Good luck ! Your life is going so well,now !!
Bless you,and don't give up on this,
lindatw
lindatw wrote:C.L. : Hooray !!! Your relationship {yes,it is too a relationship}is going so well !! This is not the time to live up to the name "crazy" by running away,hurting this guy, and destroying his happiness and yours,too. Really and truly it sounds as though you have serious,major issues with committment,fear of abandonment,and fear of closeness to anyone. If this is the case, have you thought of talking to a counselor about it ?
I've known people like that,and they ended up alone and unhappy in their lives,because they threw away perfectly good relationships because of needless fear.
It won't hurt to use your habit of "over-analyzing" to do a little self-analysis to see why you fear emotional connections.
Good luck ! Your life is going so well,now !!
Bless you,and don't give up on this,
lindatw
I have issues with attaching myself to people.. though it may seem I am very attached I can cut myself off with the snap of a finger... ever since I got hurt the very first time I loved... I haven't been able to attach myself ever since... but I am sure it goes that way with everyone... First love, first heart break... nothing compares.. ever..... and now I have found someone that seems to be opening up my eyes and it scares the sh*t out of me... because I can't feel that heartbreak again...
But I am gonna take your advice and just go with it... like my friend said to me the other day, you only live once right, so don't live with any regrets...
C.L.; Amen !!! Go for it !!!
Seek happiness,
lindatw
Ugh I am sick right now, I don't want that to ruin my plans for Saturday... Ut Oh...
I hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself and you should feel better by Saturday.
J_B wrote:I hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself and you should feel better by Saturday.
Thanks, yea I am trying, drinking plenty of fluids and resting as much as I can...
